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Thank you so much your response did bring another tear to my eyes( can’t be much more left in there to be honest) but just writing it for Sally is great advice . I had not thought of it that way
Thank you again for your help , guidance and support, you really make a difference
Hi there
I lost my wife to cancer 18 months ago, we were together over 30 years- she was 57 when she died- I loved her so much and still do- that will never change. Her last words to me were find someone who makes me happy and do not sit moping. I did just that and met someone - which has now lasted 8 months. So my answer to you is definitely meet someone- you will never forget your loved one, but your life continues so make the most of it. Your emotions will be up and down and it’s not an easy ride- but stick with it,hugs
This is true i am 54 and i dont think i want to do the next 20 plus years on my own but i feel so guilty for thinki g that
Crying aa write this its so so hard
It’s not easy- trust me I know, but you now need to live your life as your partner would have wanted you to. In my situation I would not let cancer win - I will win for both of us. Do what feels right for you and you alone…it doesn’t matter was others think, it only matters that your happy now. 
My husband also died of cancer i just need to work out what is right for me
@Mitzi
Same here, I’ve tried. I think it is brave to try again. I have longest which is 5years and I think you are right that one person is the only one. Its hard not to compare and I always miss my husband. Now, Im single again. For some reason, I feel okay and happy being single.
I dont know if I would be able to love again like how I love my husband. I just miss him so bad.
I agree Ned H
Interestingly Sally said the same to me when I was sitting with her in her final days, with my wonderful stepdaughter and my stepdaughter said to me that Sally tasked her to find someone when the time is right. It ripped me apart to be honest with my wife saying this to me. Thank you for sharing this with us . Right now I am
just about holding out trying to cope with this shocking pain and grief.
its not easy - i know - your not alone