I'm not the most important person to anyone now

I’m definitely loved by my children and grandchildren but they have their own partners and families and they see me as often as possible. I’m very lucky in so many ways but it’s 10 weeks this Saturday since I last saw my darling husband and today has been one of the worst. I’m dreading the winter and can’t even bear to think about Christmas without him let alone the rest of my life. I’m still taking each day as it comes and hopefully tomorrow will be better. I’m thinking about you all as I write this and sending hugs.X

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Hi Frankie
I know what you mean my partner paet 19th june. Cant believe its nealry 12 weeks. Feels like 12 minutes. I have said I will work as cant be here. It will be bad at work but at least there will be people around i have asked them not to ask how I am or anything else. With a bit of luck that
Time of year will go as quick as it comes around. I have said it time and time again people dont understand it. Dont want anyone popping cards through my door shall pop them n the dustbin… cant bare the thought of it. Its raw to us all amd just want to remain worh my own thoughts however long it takes hope you manahe to find some inner peace x

Hi Frankie…
Sooo sorry for ur loss.:broken_heart:
It is a very hard time for u .
My hubby passed away 8 weeks ago and know your pain :cry:. There are reminders everywhere. Sometimes what helps me is i talk to his photo and have a good cry which is often ! Worse times i feel are when i am home alone and the nights when i cry often. Another thing that has helped me is going back to work… it helps being kept busy.
We had just had our 40th Wedding Anniversary 4 weeks prior to his passing.
I know everyone is different i hope you have good days . Think of all the good times you both had together and talk about him. Take care :rose:

I don’t have grandchildren and just one son who lives independently but has huge problems (brain injuries etc) after an accident. He doesn’t have any empathy and I feel very lonely atm. My husband meant everything to me and I to him. We were 2 parts of one person . It’s been 2 months and I feel I am just waiting to be with him. It was a sudden heart attack - no warning. I’m looking for answers - there are none.

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