Im still struggling after loosing my dad

Losing a parent
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I lost my dad in july 2024 with a very short battle from leukemia. I still struggle to come to terms with loosing him. My dad recieved great care from sue ryder at home in final days.

I have experienced very bad nightmares, I can hear my dad calling for me to help him at night. This is due to poor care he recieved in hospital where they removed his call bell and he rang me early hours of the morning very distressed and upset but begging me to go in and help him.im trying to get over this but i cant as i can still hear it now. Ive spoken to nhs lets talk. They just keep advising counselling…im so affected from my fathers passing. I was made to believe by professionals that they had plans in place to cure my dad…he thought the same too. It didn’t happen. It was a terrible 4 months from diagnosis to passing but now.my life has changed forever :broken_heart: :cry:

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Hi @emmaellie11,

I’m so sorry about your dad. I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I just wanted to let you know that you have been heard and you are not alone.

Take good care,
Seaneen

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Hi @emmaellie11 sending you the biggest hug. we had issues with my mam’s care at the end as well, and am still haunted by the “what ifs.” i think losing a parent is traumatic, and a short timeline makes it all the worse (my mam also died from an aggressive cancer). i have been in therapy (similar but different to counselling) and i am finding it is helping… if anything it just makes me feel less crazy, obviously nothing is going to bring my mam back, but talking about it seems to make living each day a bit easier.

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