Hi ive just lost my boyfriend and best friend after knowing him 17 year and when we finally got together not even been together for a year or mange to get our 1st xmas next month after 9th jan would of been our 1st anniversary then in feb would of been our 1st valentines together but i lost him just before xmas and i can’t get any answers til after the new year and im really struggling.
Hello @Heva96x ,
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are struggling and with the additional wait for answers this is devastating for you. I’m so sorry to hear about your boyfriend. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you may wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.
- Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
- Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
- Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
- Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Alex
I am so sorry for your loss I lost my wife of 33 years in November though we had been together for 38 years and I too am struggling, with everything the loneliness the fear the shock all of it, and that is fine and normal, it is a maelstrom of emotion shock disbelief all overwhelming all of the time and thats fine too, be led by your emotions push where you want to go.
It is so easy to lose yourself but even after just 5 or 6 weeks I have shuffled forward a little not much but a little, I cry at the simplest of things feel like its all pointless, don’t get me wrong I’m still broken I look down and see the pieces of our life together past and planned and I ache to have that back to have a quick chat or a cuddle and that is absolutely normal too,
Be selfish do what makes you feel safe and secure and just know there is love and support out here and it helps - though we all know what we would really like but of course that is one thing we can’t ever have.
Rely on you friends and family and be selfish do what you need to to get through the day, as a community we are all here for one another - cry when you want too laugh too and don’t feel guilty its all part of our unique journey one none of us asked to be on.
We walk with you we share your pain and loss, please just take care of yourself and I truly hope the New Year brings you the solace you seek.
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