Hello Wendy
I would like to wish you a restful and peaceful Christmas period, it
is the most possible time of the year for of us. My wife Patricia and I retired
10 years ago and I know what you mean about spending time together,
we use to go on many bus rides around the County and have lunch somewhere then return home, I miss those trips no end, just sitting together
and viewing the Countryside.
I believe our very much loved ones would want us to keep our chins up.
Bryan
Thank you Bryan. It takes a bit of getting used to, just sitting alone on a bus or having a coffee. But that’s what we must do, I’m afraid, perhaps you could take photos of the countryside or read a magazine in a coffee shop. There will be other lonely people, just waiting for a smile from someone to brighten their day. Of course, people might think you’re barmy if you are grinning like a Cheshire Cat so don’t go overboard.
Hope you’re day goes well with your family.
All the best
Wendy
Hello Wendy
Lovely to receive and read your message, I don’t mind when I am talking
to Patricia if people think I am a bit barmy, I think that of myself so it is not
important.
I hope you have had a nice quite and peaceful day, I know we feel lonely with our loved ones not with us on this special day of year when it is
recognised as a family day, I believe that they would not want us to be to down hearted and for us to have q quite word with them throughout the day of out times of total togetherness…
Just returned from my daughters, we had a quite and peaceful day together then a lovely dinner and tea. My daughter gave me a lovely framed photo of Patricia, it now stands in pride of place in the lounge.
Well Wendy sincerely hope you have a restful and peaceful evening and night. Bryan
Hello Wendy
Lovely to receive and read your message, I don’t mind when I am talking
to Patricia if people think I am a bit barmy, I think that of myself so it is not
important.
I hope you have had a nice quite and peaceful day, I know we feel lonely with our loved ones not with us on this special day of year when it is
recognised as a family day, I believe that they would not want us to be to down hearted and for us to have q quite word with them throughout the day of out times of total togetherness…
Just returned from my daughters, we had a quite and peaceful day together then a lovely dinner and tea. My daughter gave me a lovely framed photo of Patricia, it now stands in pride of place in the lounge.
Well Wendy sincerely hope you have a restful and peaceful evening and night. Bryan
Hello Bryan
Good to hear you had a positive and peaceful day. The photo was a really nice thought.
Tina
Hello Jackie
Just thought I would send you a message to see how you were over
the Christmas period, I had a very quite couple of days, I suppose this is the time of the year when we miss our beloved love ones more than any other time.
I sincerely hope you have a restful and peaceful day and evening.
Bryan
Hello Tina
Just thought I would send you a message to see how you were in the 2 day
Christmas period, I had a very quite and peaceful 2 days, I suppose this period
is the time of the year when we miss our beloved love ones more than any other
period due to the very nature of Christmas.
I sincerely hope you have a restful and peaceful day and evening.
Bryan
Hello Louise
Just thought I would send you a message tom enquire how your Christmas period
went, I suppose deep down it is the most difficult time for us when we do not share
this period with our beloved love ones, However I do believe that as we think and
talk to them they are thinking us here without by our side to keep us going.
That’s all for know I sincerely hope you haver a restful and peaceful day and evening.
Bryan.
Hi Bryan, I’ve had a lovely few days with my daughter and her family and will be with them until tomorrow. We all missed Ted not being with us of cause but I think we all enjoyed our Christmas. Pleased you’ve had a good couple of days.
Take care
Jackie
Hello Brian
Good to hear you had a restful and peaceful few days. Been struggling myself lately. Take care Tina
Hello Dave,
Thought I’d drop you a line to see how you’ve been over Christmas. I’ve been at my daughters since Christmas Eve. We met up with the boys and their families today along with my sister-in-law and her husband for lunch which has been nice. I find it very hard when we are all together it seems more obvious that Ted is not with us if you know what I mean, I’m sure you do.
I hope you’ve been ok and that you have had as good a Christmas as you could have with your family.
Take care and talk again soon
Jackie
Hi Jackie, know exactly what you mean, it’s best to be around family anytime especially at Christmas but it drives home even harder doesn’t it ? Strangely enough Christmas was better than I thought apart from a couple of emotional moments that hurt real hard that brought memories back. I had both my daughters and their husbands on both days and my mum and June’s Mum and Dad. But today has been an absolute nightmare I just feel so empty and alone, me and June would have gone shopping today to a centre or maybe Cambridge and had lunch out, but today just spent it at home on my own just moping about and very emotional.
How was your Christmas ? nice that you had family around you.
Take care and speak to you soon Dave
Hi Dave, I’m so glad that you also found Christmas better you than you thought it would be so did I. I went with my daughter and grandchildren to mine and Teds favourite restaurant for Christmas lunch as I could not cope with the thought of being at home without Ted being there. I’ve had a few moments that gave been very emotional. The most emotional bit was holding our new granddaughter who Ted never got to meet as she was born in November and I met her today for the first time as I’ve had chest Infection that turned into pneumonia.
Ted and would have gone for a drive out somewhere today possibly to the east coast.
Try and keep your chin up I know it’s not easy.
Speak soon.
Jackie
Oh Jackie I had to reply to your message it moved me so much about your granddaughter, I know so much how that must feel as our little grandson June at least got to see him for 18 months and see adored him and he gets me every time when he kisses nannies photo goodnight and sings twinkle little star song for nanny. It’s got me just editing this. I must admit haven’t done Christmas lunch out don’t know how it would be as especially June always had Christmas Day at ours so we didn’t break tradition this year and I don’t think I ever will but never say never. Glad you too found a little peace at Christmas for Ted and I hope your chest infection is getting better if not better now.
Trip to east coast ? My neck of the woods or a little further north to Skeggy, Grimsby
Speak soon Dave
Hi Bryan
On the practical side Christmas and New Year was ok, I coped, but emotionally it was very hard. I agree with you though, I believe that Gordon is with me in some way wherever I am, and I talk to him and think about him (even though it upsets me) as much as I can.
Take care, Louise xx
Hi Dave, just wondering how you were doing. I thought I was doing really well with things but I’m not. I’m really struggling at the moment I’m finding it difficult to get out of bed some mornings and even more difficult to go out of the house some days. That said I’m going out with friends when asked and went to our local restaurant for mine and our grandsons birthday as we’ve done for the past however meant years. I just don’t want them to know how empty I feel or upset our grandchildren. The youngest one of our grandchildren went with us this year for my birthday which was lovely as it’s the first time shed been, but I just kept thinking how proud and happy Ted would have been to see how she’d grown. She will be two in April.
Jackie x
Hi Wendy, just wondered how you were doing. I’m not doing too well at the moment. Went away for mine and Teds wedding anniversary as you know but at the moment I’m struggling to get out of bed in a morning and to go out of the house most days. I’m hiding how things are from friends and family. I managed to go to Scotland in November but struggle to drive to the local supermarket at the moment.
Sorry for being so negative.
Hope your well
Jackie x
Jackie that’s a shame to hear you are struggling to get out of the bed and house, it’s very weird as I too am struggling and have been these last few months. I’m finding I’m working more at work and then when I get home I do work work and also housework jobs so I’m depressed as I don’t have a work/life balance. It’s nice you are getting out with friends mine have all departed now and don’t text or message me anymore. That’s so lovely you went out for your birthday but my heart goes to you as I know exactly how you feel about your thoughts around Ted not seeing your grandchildren growing up they are the exact same thoughts I have about June and it makes me so upset and is doing now typing this. Our grandson had his 2nd birthday a couple of weeks ago and my daughter had a party for him but I struggled with the people around it’s just wasn’t a party that I know and know June loved.
I can’t see a way forward and just want this pain to end somehow for me
You take care and wish I could say more to you and give you a magic wand.
Dave
Hi Dave,
I’m sorry to hear your struggling too. I’m also sorry to hear your friends have departed that is such a shame, it could be that they don’t know what to say or do.
I know what you mean about the pain and if I ever find that magic wand I’ll let you know and we can share it. Also know what you mean about the work thing as I used to bring work home.
Why not ring one of your friends and arrange to meet up. Sorry don’t mean to sound bossy.
Take care and hope to talk again soon.
Jackie
Thanks Jackie I think I’ll have to try and speak to my friends it’s just that I have become even more emotional these last few months, I was like you thought I was starting to live life without our loved ones but then it’s just smacked me straight in the face again and I can’t get over it this time and don’t know what to do.
I’ll speak to you soon hopefully we will have some better news for each other that we are sort of turning a corner.
Take care
Dave