In a bit of a mess

Losing a parent
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Two years ago, I lost both my Dad to Dementia, and my step-dad to lung cancer. My ex, the mother of my eldest daughter also passed away in the same month, she was two yesrs younger than me. A few months later, I separated from my wife, she did something awful to my 13yr old daughter.

In the beginning I was too busy to think about things too much, being a single Dad to a 13yr old is tough. Then two weeks ago I lost my favourite Aunt, my Dad’s sister.

Its like everything has hit me all at once.

This life just seems to be about loss, the longer you go on, the more you lose. Not only that but I think Ive reached the point where I have more people that I love that have passed away than I have living.

Is it normal to look forward to the end of this life more than you want to live it? I miss my Nan, my Aunt, my Dads, and it doesnr get any easier

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Hello @DeanAnt ,

I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you feel like life feels more about loss for you right now. I’m so sorry to hear about all your lost loved ones. It sounds as though things are very tough for you right now. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you may wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.

I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,

Alex

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That’s a hell of a lot of loss in a short span. I’m really sorry you are going through it. Keeping busy with distractions is so difficult. As is just sitting and grieving. At least the teenager can give you structure of some kind. But I think you need support for grief or someone to take this burden on and help you through. Even a doctor could listen or the Samaritans. Grief counselling or something. I don’t know. I wish you strength.

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