It’s been 3 years. The plan was to sell the house, move to the country and release equity. Trouble is the memories locked into the house. He renovated everywhere and lovingly restored this house. He would want me to move on emotionally and physically but it’s so hard to leave…
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Bless your heart.
I’m having an emotional day, and your post has brought tears to my eyes.
All I want to say to you is that your most precious memories are locked away in your heart and soul.
And they will remain there wherever you are.
Having said that I understand 1000% how incredibly difficult moving would be.
Almost 18 months for me. The pain is as raw as ever .
Love, hugs and strength to you my darling 
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Hi @Abby-Lofts24
I know how you are feeling.
My husband spent the last 16 years of our 35 years married making our house our forever home lovingly doing garden DIY cooking and making everything easier for our retirement but that didnt happen.
However we are semi rural and i dont drive and transport is limited so i now find myself isolated. When he passed i said i would give myself 3years to make decision to move or stay but like your self i am reluctant to give up the house he worked so hard to build.
Life is not easy i hope in time i will be able to make the correct decision
Lynne x
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Only you can decide what you want to do, but it is difficult. Susan and i moved to our cottage two and a half years ago, but within five months her health took a turn for the worse. I cared for her at home until she passed away 6 weeks ago.
My sons are already encouraging me to move closer to them. I know better than to make any rash decisions, its too soon. Susan loved the house, but was too ill to fully appreciate it. My memories are mostly of Susan being ill in this house and passing away in it, however, i cant help thinking id be leaving her behind if i did decide to move.
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