How do you cope when you can’t get to sleep?
I fall asleep and then have had my sleep and wake up in early hours
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Hi @Enorac
I’m just giving your thread a gentle, “bump” for you - hopefully someone will have some thoughts to share.
You may also find our article ‘Tips to help your sleep routine’ helpful to read.
Take good care,
Kate
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You just cope. For some people it gets better over time. It is 14 months for me and I still don’t sleep properly. In the early days some nights it was 2 hours sleep until I was so exhausted I just had to sleep. At present sleep through the night in 2 hour chunks but often up in early hours then go back to bed. Generally up at 5 every morning. Some days I try and nap during the day. Alright for me as I am retired. Basically for me it is something I have just had to get used to. Good news is for some sleep gets back to normal over time.
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It’s been 15 months in, I am still up in the early hours every night 
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What would you give for the oblivion of deep sleep
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Hi it’s nearly three years since my husband died , I have only had one full night’s sleep in all that time , I actually thought I had died when I woke up that morning and seen I had slept all night . My husband used to say I could sleep on a washing line . I think now all that time wasted sleeping when my husband was here .
I’m now used to broken sleep . I wake after a couple of hours and mostly managed to go back to sleep , some nights I don’t sleep at all . X take care x
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The GP gave me mirtazapine, which really does work; it’s an anti-anxiety drug.
Hello
It is 17 months for me since I lost my husband I dont sleep and it is the same for me
I sleep for a couple of hours fall asleep then I find myself awake at 5am . I find that finding something to do for example I colour in books ( calm ) then I drift off this may help or reading
It doesnt always work but give it a try
It is hard, sleep seems a thing of the past, I use lavender pillow spray and also picked up some meditation tips on line, it doesn’t always work, but sometimes.
Hope this helps x
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Thank you Jilly might try that and x
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Amitriptyline helps me and also magnesium spray which i use for arthritis but spray in joints soles of feet it does help x
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My Dad died in 1981 when I was 18 and I haven’t slept a full night since then. I have tried everything - prescription drugs, alcohol, staying up late, going to bed early, exercise, meditation, diet, nothing has ever worked for me. Now I’m worse than ever. Last night I went to bed at 2230, woke at 0130, still awake at 0430.
Recently I sprayed his aftershave on my pillow, it worked once.
Not much of a support, am I? Sorry 
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You are talking about it thats good enough
we all understand and I can understand as I don’t sleep either
Sending you hugs
Anything really and anything to have him back too!