As soon as I put my key in the door I feel my husband’s presence. The house is very “him”. But I am so missing him that for me it feels like a knife in a open wound. It screams he is not there, more than if I am somewhere he has never been.
I completely agree with you, Lost12. I have a real need to talk to someone in person and someone who understands what we are going through. I have spoken to a counsellor and while they helped, they weren’t able to relate to the huge sense of loss the death of a partner brings.
Being on my own causes me to overthink and drives me further into despair.
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Exactly right, I know how you feel x
Exactly I think we need to speak to people who do understand what we are going through. Considering how agonising it is I’m surprised there are not meeting places all over the country. I’d like to set one up near me, maybe one day I will be brave enough to start a group. My local church used to do them before covid, it wasn’t religious groups just somewhere to hold them.
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I have thought the same, Lost12. I searched online for local bereavement support groups and didn’t find any close to me.
Since then, I have found out that a local hospice offers bereavement counselling and not just for the relatives of patients. I don’t know how specific this would be to losing a partner or if all hospices do this but if you have a hospice nearby it might be worth looking into.
But yes, you’re absolutely right, Lost12. Bereavement support groups are very few and far between.
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In our area there are several bereavement groups sponsored by the local undertakers. Contact one of them and see whether they do the same in your area. I have been to a couple of meetings
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Hello,
I’m so sorry for your loss. I just wanted to reach out with this useful information.
Sue Ryder has just launched our Grief Kind Spaces.
Our Grief Kind Spaces are weekly, in-person drop-in sessions held in the local community and run by trained volunteers. The sessions provide a safe, informal and supportive place for people to come together and share their experiences of grief, helping attendees to feel heard and less alone.
If you’re not in an area with a Grief Kind space, or are looking for a different kind of support, you might want to check out the AtALoss website. It is a directory of bereavement support, including support groups. If you click this link then select your region, you can see what bereavement support is available in your area.
Your council’s website should also have information on local bereavement support. If you search for “your council name + bereavement”, you can find your council bereavement support page.
I hope this is helpful - take good care,
Alex