This Christmas will be the first without my darling Stephen, who passed away early October. I want to find ways to involve him and his memory. Any ideas? I am missing my soul mate with all my heart and I am not going to pretend all is well. Thank you in advance x
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When I lost my dad who I adored 2 weeks before Xmas 5 yrs ago, I woke up Xmas day in a daze and was extremely restless and I found myself going through old Xmas cards and there was one from dad so I put it up on the mantle place and felt immediate peace. His card had always been there since I was born so it felt perfect.
This year I will be doing the same with the addition of my partners card who passed in March this year, again always a card from him for the last 30 plus years. For me it is comforting, includes him and a continuation of our past xmas’s together. I will also light a candle for my dad, my mum, my partner and my dog who all passed this year
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Hi @SP60
I’m so sorry that you have suffered so much loss. My heart goes out to you.
I like your idea about the card. My husband died suddenly 3 months ago today and today is his birthday. I lit a candle beside his photo, and I drank a toast to him with a small glass of his favourite red wine. I have been heartbroken all day, but I took comfort from having a little tribute to him. It helped me to feel connected to him.
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Typo error. Not 3 months ago today. 3 months ago last Saturday.
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Oh Sarlyn,
You have suffered so much this year with all the losses.myvheart goes out to you
Thank you for sharing your ideas
Deborah x
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I have candles with messages from me and my son . Mine says I love you to the moon and back . Something we would say to each other often . Not going to be here for it . Far far too painful this first one
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I will light a candle for my husband. I usually light candles for my parents on their birthday (and I will for my husband on his) but he’ll be sorely missed this Christmas (I lost in on 7th November).
I will be having Christmas dinner at his mum & dads (my in-laws) who do not believe that there is anything after death - but if I had been at home, or with more understanding people, I would also have laid him a place at the table to share the meal. His parents accidentally did that at Sunday lunch a couple of weeks ago and I found it comforting.
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I have a very good friend who has invited me for New Year’s Day too . So kind
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I will light a candle for my gorgeous beautiful wife sue and one for her mum dad and her first husband fred who i helped nurse him through the last 12 months of lung cancer who passed away on Christmas day. Another one is setting a place for sue at the table as well
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So sorry. You have been through so much this year. I lost my husband April this year. I’ve still got our dog. He’s nearly 18yrs and when i lose him i just don’t know what I’ll do. It’s a good idea about card and candles. Thinking of you. Take care. X
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@Jay15 Thank you and so sorry for your loss too. Losing my Sammy (dog) was the worst pain I have ever experienced in my life x
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I can’t believe that someone I know sent me there year events . I am not in mood to read about them
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Jol I can sympathise with you on this
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@Jol my mum had one of these newsletters. Not only was it addressed to mum & Dad (Dad died in March) but it included the plans for a home she’s having renovated!!! I told her to not even bother sending a return card.
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@Martyn2 the top of the letter was news about their wedding anniversary as well how thoughtless eh
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I think people just don’t know what to say . It could quite easily have been them and being around someone who lost a loved one makes them feel uncomfortable . So can say the wrong thing or just plain blank you . I have had both over the last 2 years . I think they call them fair weather friends !! All the best to you
I’m so sorry . I have had a candle for my husband saying I love you to the mom and back something I always said to my wonderful husband . My hug to you xxxx
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Lit a candle for sue her mum and dad and my mum .then we have a large one lit in the kitchen as well.dont think i will ever get over this
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