Hi Liz
Just wanted to check in to see how you are doing today and to let you know I’m thinking of you.
No need to reply - hoping you are
getting some better sleep.
Big hugs xx
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Hi @roni52
Thankyou.
I’m feeling much better.
Thankyou so much for caring.
I think I was just having a big blip.
What @LynT said made me think.
I have tried to change my mindset and stop running away from the grief but accept it is there and is not going anytime soon. I will cope with the bad days and the tears but I will relish the good days.
I seem to have had a better week so maybe it works
Tomorrow is Friday, my bad day.
It will be 25 weeks at 1.15 tomorrow.
But again after a talking too from my daughter I’ve realised I was just crying for me, not Roger.
That was when his suffering ended, and mine began.
So now I try to remember the good memories and forget the bad ones.
I am trying to keep this positivity going, but I’m not stupid and know I will fall now and again, but I will get up. And I will carry on, as he wanted me to.
Thank you so much for thinking of me when you’re struggling youself.
I hope you are ok too.
Love and hugs
Liz x x
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I’m going to one on Wednesday at the Alice Cross Centre in Teignmouth. I’m meeting the lady who runs it first on Monday. I’m not sure if it will help but I think I need to try. My main worry is that it will be full of older ladies who have had their husbands for longer or my worst nightmare, it will be full of the partners of my old patients xx
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So this was the annoying thing which I found.
In Suffolk, the only groups of the hospice and set up for cancer patients.
The group young and widowed stops when you’re 53.
I’m 54.
It is really nice talking to the next generation up because they nurture you and are so kind- but actually, I want to talk to someone of my generation.
And I don’t want to be part of young and widowed because I’ve not got much in common with people in their 20s or 30s.
be great if there was a middle-aged and widowed group !
Sending hugs to all.
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Hi @Ginger68
Please go to the club.
I go to a bereavement club run by the hospice. And yes some are older ladies (I suppose I’m one too🤔) but there are some younger ones, and everyone is so friendly and welcoming.
Please give it a try. It might help.
If not you don’t have to go again
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Yea same here, I often think" I know you have lost your husband too but bet your not going through the menopause at the same time! " The menopause doesn’t stop for grief" ! x
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