Long story ahead - one of my parents died 6 years ago and my friend was very supportive. They had a strong relationship with my parent, and supported me through the first few weeks of grief.
6 years on, my friends parents both died, tragically close together.
When I was told about the first parent dying, I was told my friend wasn’t up to talking to people. So I sent my condolences, flowers and a card. I was thanked for the flowers. I then sent messages every few days to check in. I didn’t receive a response so I backed off a bit, and left it a few weeks before checking in again. No response again, so every few weeks I would message to check in. No response.
I found out a few months later via my friends social Media that their other parent had died. I sent a message of condolence, glowed and card but again didn’t get a response. I kept sending messages every few weeks to check in again. The last message I sent was to ask to send a birthday gift. My friend responded saying no in a very aggressive way, i asked what was wrong and if I had done something and my friend ended our friendship because I hadn’t been to visit during their grief.
I have spent a long time trying to work out what I have done. Has anyone else experienced this?