Is a year today, I was told my brother’s heart stoped during a so call simple operation. Stil remembered he told me I will be out in 3 days time and will make a trip to come and see me. I am re living all the nightmare. No one seems to understand, I am a very considerate person, always help others, Since I came back from his funeral last March. My neighbour still wants me me to look after her cat , which i always do before, sometime a week , 3 to 4 days often, this time I went mad inside, told her to get someone else. Rarely anyone ask me how am I coping, even my husband only have pity eyes for me. I know he cares, but it makes me more angry. How bad am I?
March will be another nightmare. How can I cope?
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I’m so sorry for your loss. It is heartbreaking for those that are left behind .I think the trauma of the shock you must have felt is also a big factor .I also had that shock right up until my dad died .I expected him. To get well and would never have expected him to go so suddenly. But I think what reassures me if anything .is that this is the way he would have liked to go .but it doesn’t help really .I miss him every second of every day and am holding on just for him as when he was here he was the strongest man I knew and I want to do this for him x
I also have been the one to care for others but feel so alone now and people are so caught up in their own lives to even ask how we are. Which is why I have reached out here .only these people who are going through the same thing no how hard it is
My brother is a strong and kind person as well, we have a 16 years gap, he look after us when father died, taken over every responsibilities. Even when I was working, THe thoughts and advise he given me. I know he will be mad to see me now, I should cherish his kindness and generosity. Do tell me how you cope, your ups and down. I told my husband today, I will died of broken heart one day.