Is this normal?

I’m just lost. Have lost my little sister, Mum and a dear uncle in this past year. I’m now left caring for my dad who depends on me so much.

I was doing OK. I thought. But now I just feel disconnected from everyone and everything. Like life is happening to other people and I’m not really here.

I’m not suicidal or considering it but I do wonder how am I supposed to live for how ever long I have left feeling like this. I do often think all this pain would go if I wasn’t here.

I’m just going through the motions of living. Nothing makes me happy.


Hello @Bigsister1,

I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your mum, sister and uncle in such a short space of time. It sounds as though things are very overwhelming at the moment and you are feeling very disconnected from life.

I’m glad that you’ve been able to share how you are feeling here and I hope that you find the community a good source of support. Everyone here has experienced the loss of a loved one and will understand some of what you are going through.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that may help you right now.

Take care - keep reaching out,


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@Bigsister1 you have suffered so much loss in a short space of time, no wonder you feel as you do… Grief is a long and winding road, it seems that emotions will be all over the place for some time. After the sudden death of my Mum in January I have lost a lot of motivation for life. It can feel very much like going through the motions. I have also wondered whether I will feel the same forever. Rather than making lots of plans that I don’t want to follow through, I have just accepted that this is part of grief. I’m certain that overtime there will be a shift in my feelings but I am not going to rush through it. I try to look for signs of joy in very simple things and that’s enough for now. I advise you to do the same. Find something simple that brings a little comfort and enjoyment, then build on that as time moves on. Best wishes to you xx

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