I lost my dad unexpectedly at the end of October this year. Over a month later and on the outside, I am carrying on as normal going to work, coaching netball, being a mum, etc but I am struggling when it comes to my husband. He is not doing anything wrong and is trying to be as supportive as he can but when he makes jokes to try to cheer me up, I get annoyed by them. I am over sensitive and I am struggling when it comes to showing him affection. I feel really guilty as he has always been there for me. Is this normal? I have never had to deal with losing a parent before and I have no idea what to expect and how I should be behaving.
Hello Marli,
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you may wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.
- Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
- Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
- Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
- Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Rhi
Hi. I also lost a parent and I am finding myself being really frustrated that my husband is just carrying on with day to day things and doesn’t seem to understand that I find this hard to see him carry on with life. I am trying to get on with things but it just hits me that my mum is no longer there for me to visit or a phone call away. That breaks my heart and it feels painful. I am worried I am not processing it and pushing it to the back of my mind and it’s almost like I am waiting for the realisation and I’m scared what this will be like. We have not had the funeral yet so maybe this may change things. Stay strong x