My husband died suddenly and on his own at the end of January. I just can’t cope at all and tonight I am angry. He died on a Friday, tonight, and I just cry all the time. I am off work again as they say I need more time, I work in an emergency dept which doesn’t help. I need to learn how to cope but how do I do that? Anyone got any tips?
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The only tip that I can give you is it takes time to accept that it has happened to you .Losing someone so close to you is dreadful and something that you just cannot process in the early months as you are in deep shock still. Keep on chatting to us on here as we all understand. Sending you love and hugs xxxx
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So sorry for your loss - it’s so painful but this a safe place to open up and vent your feelings We all know how you feel and are here to support you in this. I lost my partner of 17 years at the end of January. I miss him more than words can say. I know he’d want me to be happy again and some days I get overwhelmed - on these days I appreciate the support and understanding I get here. I feel lonely and angry too - I recall my dad saying the same after my mum died and he saw the family every day. I now understand what he meant…it’s not so much being alone but being without my partner. There’s an emptiness and gap that can’t be filled, he’s gone and I long for him to be here. I thought when my mum died that my dad would never recover. He would say he’d lost his right arm. Time passed and he did eventually rebuild a happy life. Use this platform to allow the feelings out, it does help to know others truly understand
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@Geebee1 I am very sorry for your loss of your husband. I lost my husband early last year suddenly and unexpectedly and find myself in this new life which I never wanted. The first year I was in shock and numb, which you will be. This second year is hard as reality has hit me. Some days are ok and other days are hard. It’s like swimming in choppy waters with massive waves and other days the sea is calm. I am keeping busy filling my time working and going out with friends. I went back to work after 6 weeks but couldn’t manage it so had another 5 months off. I live day by day hour by hour and try not to look into the future as too painful as could have had another 30 years together. I still cry and scream which I find is a release. Keep reaching out and talking on here and maybe find a support group which I did which was very helpful. Take care and big hugs xx
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