My husband’s passing was traumatic for myself and 3 kids. He had MND, bulbar onset, he was admitted to hospital for feacal impaction but died from respiritory failure and what I would describe as in pain. My poor darling was in pain and lasted 40 minutes after sedation, he turned purple as he was gasping for breath.
Towards the last 10 minutes I asked for more pain relief for my husband, his eyes rolled upwards and stayed there until he passed. We couldn’t look at him, I placed a towel over his eyes, I was assured by the Dr that at this stage he’d be unconscious. I played with his beard and whispered sweetly in his ear, his breathing went slower and slower until it stopped. I remember screaming and sobbing, the pain I felt was horrific and had to be calmed down. My husband turned yellow as minutes ticked by. The Dr said this was Sepsis in his body. I’d read up beforehand on what happens when people are sedated before they pass and it was nothing what we witnessed. I know everyone is different but I wish it would of been more serene, or even in his sleep. I’ve never seen anybody pass before so it’s all still a shock and we’re all having counselling.