I've just lost my beautiful Daughter

Losing a child
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8 years ago my daughter’s friend Sarah who was 26 at the time (a single mum with 3 lovely children) asked me if I would be her Dad.
Sarah was abused as a child and had never known what it was like to be loved by a parent.
I said yes and that was the best decision of my life.
She was also abused by two of her partners and because of this and mental health issues Sarah’s children were taken off her and placed into care.
Sarah was a perfect mum and loved her children more than anything in the world and never once laid a finger on them, and her children love her.
We have spent the last 8 years trying to get the children back and were finally getting somewhere when Sarah who has recently suffered a lot of physical problems/pain passed away on the 23rd of December.
I have been staying at Sarah’s house in the spare room and helping out so it was me that found her when I went to give her a shake before work.

Over the years we developed a true Dad Daughter relationship, (took a while but we got there), and even though Im not her blood Dad if you like I know I have lost a beautiful daughter.
I didn’t even get chance to give her a xmas present.
I am devastated and having serious problems dealing with this.
My heart goes out to any other parents out there ( blood or not) who are having to deal with the loss of a son or daughter like this.

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Hello @MembMP4 ,

I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about your daughter Sarah. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that might be helpful.

I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,

Alex