Jealous of my husband

My dad died May 2019 and my Mum January 2020. I’m so lost without them. I think I’m coping and then something happens and I fall apart. I was incredibly close to them both and feel so alone.

It’s my husband’s mum’s 70th birthday and we’re getting together. I’m so jealous and angry. Neither of my parents made it to that age. He seems uninterested. Asked me to sort her present , I’ve made a card. He just isn’t putting in any effort to celebrate. I’m so angry at him, at her, at life. How can I sit there celebrating when my mum and dad never got to celebrate?

I just want to see my mum

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Hi Scarlet, losing a parent we were incredibly close to is one of the worst things that can happen to us, and it is so sad to read that it has happened twice to you. It must be incredibly frustrating that your husband isn’t caring much about his mum’s birthday given how much you love your mum and how much you wish she was here so you could celebrate her birthday with her. Grief can often cause anger, and I hope that things get better for you soon.

Hi Scarlet,

I really sympathise with you. My dad died of a sudden heart attack when he was 53 and my mum died last year of a brain bleed aged 74. I thought my mum would reach 90. I just cannot come to terms with it and Im so bitter with the world. Both my partners parents are alive (they are only in their 60s) but my mum’s brothers and sisters are still here and they are in their mid to late 80s. Its so unfair isn’t it.
I know there are some tragic stories on SR but every day I wonder why my parents died so young.
Cheryl x