Anyone else feel they can’t go to places you used to go with loved ones. Every Monday we used to go to StIves Cambridgeshire and have a meal but since Jim’s gone i can’t bring myself to go every week I think right I go this week but when Monday comes I cant do it . Been to lots of other places we went to but for some reason this seems different and I don’t know what’s stopping me. Only thing I can think of is the cafe we used liked Jim and they don’t know he’s died and I would have to explain to them then I would cry and make a fool of myself
You wouldn’t be making a fool of yourself, you’d quite rightly be emotional. I’m sure if the staff know you both quite well they’ll be sympathetic and it might actually help you a little.
I do understand your reticence though, it’s so hard doing things you used to do together
My home was in Blackpool and my Husband and I would often have a walk through the arcades and the promenade. My Husband was well known down the sea front. In 5 years I haven’t stepped foot on the seafront. I can’t. I don’t know which is the bigger reason, that people would ask and I really, really would have hated explaining, or that I’d be forever “looking for him”. Either way I can truly say it doesn’t get easier with time. I’m sorry I can’t be more positive but wanted to acknowledge your post to let you know that someone else has these thoughts as well. All the best and kind thoughts to you.