Coming up for 6 months losing my mum and am just lost. Just nothing getting better, just worse. Feel emotional detached from everything and everyone. I am drifting further and further into a dark place. Have started high intensity CBT, but not working at all, in fact seems to be making me worse, bringing up demons that I hid away. I just dont know what to do or where to turn 
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I can completely relate. I never imagined it would be so hard and such a roller coaster. Everyone tells me it’s normal, but it doesn’t feel normal and it isn’t my normal 
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Totally, i knew it would be hard, mum was whole life, but this is above and beyond anything i expected. Its like my whole life has imploded. The whole world has moved on and i am just stuck, i cant move forward. Sure people think ‘its been 6 months you should be moving on now’…so i just hide away now because people just dont understand. X
@Debbie100 sorry for your loss. I am just over a year after losing my mum she was all I had. My son is the only thing that keeps me going and he also misses his nana. I am just over a year and it’s not any easier, today I drove past her work and the tears just came from nowhere as I remember when I would pick her up. We need to do this in our own time and there is no limit on grief. Take care 
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I finding it hard to move on from my brother passing, some people find it harder than others ,i know they say time is a good healer but how long i gave no idea, sending you my thoughts you are not alone x
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Very sorry for your loss. I’m a few months away from losing my dad and can relate to the pain and the feeling of detachment. I know people think you should be over it, but at first you are in shock and after that fades it does get worse for a while, because reality sinks in. Life as we know it has changed beyond words and recognition.
I’m familiar with CBT, but what is high intensity CBT, just going more often?
Sending hugs. 
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Have no idea…thats what they called it, its once a week. Find it a bit patronising tbh. I am not really good at talking about how i feel, i just end up crying…alot…then i just come away totally drained and in a darker place then when i started. I just feel like shaking them and saying ‘no you cant possibly understand’ x
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Sorry for your loss. Time seems to be making it worse. Its like i am just emotionless to everything apart from grief. I just dont care about anything. Today been my worst day so far x
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Sorry for your loss. Its just so hard, everyday i hope for a better day, but its just not coming…just gets darker. Just lost x
I understand. It doesn’t sound like a good fit for you, at least not right now. Maybe the counsellor can adjust the approach if you tell them how you feel? I hope you find it helpful to write here, there are many threads you can jump into and lots of nice people who comment. 
Sorry for your loss. It’s coming up to a year now for my dad four days after my birthday. It isn’t any easier and all I that is in my mind now is that this time last year I was in hospital with him all night and then what happened each day leading up to his death. I am finding it so hard, I know people say I should be over the grieving process now and I am putting on a face laughing and joking so that everyone thinks I am okay but I am not. It hurt when my mam passed and now the pain is doubled. It will be my first birthday without both of my parents and I feel so alone, sorry this sounds so pathetic as other people have greater troubles than me. Take care of yourself. xx
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No one can take this awful pain away but it has really helped me to realise U am not the only one.
I have coped with soo much and cared for people before, so I don’t think people can truly believe how I am now feeling. It is just so hard to get up each day. I close my eyes and hope not to wake some days just so it stops. I lost my Mum 6 month ago. I tried to keep videos of her younger and happier to remember what a smiling happy person she was.
Just recently all I can get in my head is her wanting soo much to die and being stuck. She was 82 but was sharp to her last few hours. I loved her soo much it hurts in my stomach that she has gone forever. Just knowing I am not alone and being able to write this is helpful X