With Christmas approaching and it being our first one with out my brother who was tragically murdered, my grandad who is now at end of life, is it Bad i feel jealous of people with siblings as I’m now a single child, and as the whole world is the same but mine is upside down. I’m scared for the future, I don’t know how to comfort my mum who’s losing/lost both important people in her life. Sometimes people ask how am i and I honestly don’t know how to answer that especially as I’m not an emotional person I don’t want to lie and say everything is okay when it’s not! I don’t want to burden my friends as I don’t feel they understand how I’m feeling and imagining is not the same as experiencing it, especially as my brother was taken so unfairly and young.
Hello @Natasha1990 ,
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about the tragic loss of your brother, and about your grandad being at the end of life. This is an incredibly painful amount for one person to be carrying. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you may wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.
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Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
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Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
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Coping with grief at Christmas | Sue Ryder occasions like Christmas can feel especially difficult, and this page offers guidance and support
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Alex