Hi I just lost my dad to cancer a week ago . I cared for him with my mum for over 3 years at home . The last 4 months he was in a nursing home as he was too critical for us to manage at home .
My mum is now totally lost and won’t come out of her bedroom , my teenage son and I live with her and it’s really negative and depressing atmosphere as she was married for 58 years .
My mum now has a heart condition and I’m trying to hold down a new job I’ve started only been there 2 months . They have asked me if I need to take time off , but I’m worse if I stay at home and I’ve just kept working , I feel I’m on auto pilot and a huge void when does it ease up any ideas ? I’m emotional support for my mum who refuses to go to Cruse for counselling and my son is now stressed with A levels I just wonder how I’m going to get through this
Hi, I’m not sure I have any advice for you but I just wanted to reply and send you love. I lost my Dad to cancer earlier this year and the grief is so unpredictable. We were told that everyone needs to find their own way through it and I think that is true but it is so hard. Although it is difficult I think maybe focus on dealing with your grief and being there for your mum and son as they need you. Take care of yourself
Thanks so much for replying yes it’s hard the grief just hits you all of a sudden like a ton of bricks …out of nowhere it appears . Yes self care is the way forward for me I guess and meditating a lot thanks fir your reply much appreciated
Dee5, I really sorry for your loss. I am a support team for my mum as well, and I have sons, they are teens as well. We don’t live with my mum, but near to her. I am in grief as well, but I have to take care of my mum, who depended on my dad. I am auto pilot as you. I do just the base things we have to do, zero extra. And I am beware of cut the tree under us. Take care, send you hugs.
Apu thanks so much for your reply it really helps to know someone else is going through the same as me . I just went away for the weekend to heal and it has really helped . I’m finding yoga and meditating and hypnotherapy is helping me .