Thanks Wren. I have been paying for counselling but I don’t think we’re a good match. I hope you’re feeling a bit better.
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Good morning everyone. Hoping everyone is well. I’ve been doing my best to get out and about for short periods but finding doing some very ordinary things exhausting. I’ve got several birthdays coming up when we all used to be together. They are going to be difficult.
Wishing everyone as good a day as possible.
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Well done for getting out. I think it’s important to try so I often go out when I don’t really want too. I don’t have any birthdays coming up but I’m dreading Christmas and will be glad to get through the first one.
I’m also wishing everyone the best day you can manage.
Me too Sam. My husband’s birthday is Christmas eve so I’m doubly dreading it. In between there is my younger son’s, mine and my eldest grandson’s. All occasions we would be together. I’ve asked my son to cook a roast dinner at his house on those days as i can’t face going to a noisy busy restaurant. I don’t know what will happen Christmas day. I’m trying not to think about it. As a family we decided some years ago to stop buying Christmas presents for the adults and buy for the children, grandchildren only. They are grown up now so prefer money. The only present i buy is for my Great grandson who is two. I will buy that online so that’s taken care of. I’m glad i don’t have to think of going Christmas shopping.
Good morning everyone. I hope everyone is well. I’ve distracted myself over the last week by ordering photographs from my phone via the Freeprints app. I’ve put them in cheap frames from Dunelm and will give some away to family and put the others on the wall. The process took my mind off things for a time and has given me something new to look at. Very best wishes to everyone today.
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Good morning everyone. I had a very tearful morning yesterday and then on and off for the rest of the day. There is just something about Sundays. Even more so with clocks changing.
I’ve got visits this week from from friends from Australia and France. These are friends from our teenage years. I’m both looking forward to them and dreading them as they will be emotional and energy draining. I’ve fallen into a routine of getting some things done in the mornings and then exhausted and resting in the afternoons. Usually asleep for a while in my lay back chair with the cat.
Best wishes to everyone as we start another week.
Good morning. I’m sorry to hear you had a bad Sunday. Weekends are so difficult. I’ve had a couple of my husband’s relatives from Canada with me since last Tuesday, leaving tomorrow. It’s been hard work but very enjoyable and sad. When they leave I’ll be back to earth with a bump. On my own in an empty house again. I’m dreading it! Hope you have a better day today and hope everyone has a reasonable week.
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I know exactly what you mean. My husband never drove so I miss him terribly when I’m in the car. I often used to reach out and hold his hand for a second or stroke his knee. I sometimes do that and pretend he’s there. He was so lovely and he died just under two months ago. I assume the pain must ease but this is the worst I have ever known, by far. I do hope you can find ways through it. But my counsellor says that repressing grief is dangerous as it will come back in some even nastier form. However she also says that you can come back to the moment when you have to by just looking at what’s around you eg counting floor tiles or carpet patterns or cars on the street. That is a help to me when I just have to deal with normal life.
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Dear Frankie I am so sorry that you are ill on top of the awful pain of grief. My only advice is that I forced myself to reach out to friends to suggest a coffee or just a chat when it was convenient for them. Afterwards the grief will hit you but at least you’ve had a little holiday from it. I still find it hard to call people but am working through a list and it does help. All the very best
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