My mum died suddenly last Friday, she wasn’t even ill. She had felt off for a few days and was booked to go to the doctors on Friday morning, around the same time she died. I held her hand as she passed and they tried to bring her back. Going through post mortem probably today and I’m trying to stay so strong for my dad who is going through all the emotions. I’m trying to stay strong for everyone but I’m afraid that this will all come out after the funeral.
I’ve had to talk to all the family and its hard but I know mum would have wanted me to make sure dad is ok. Luckily my children don’t really understand although my 5 year old is asking questions and finding it hard to feel all these emotions.
I hope days get easier soon!
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Hello, I am so very sorry for you, when we lose are mums our world can feel that life has stopped. It is very early for you and those first few weeks can feel endless and dealing with the family is not easy. I really do feel for you. We are always here for you and please keep posting because sometimes being able to write down our thoughts help us get through bad days. Small steps and be kind to yourself. S xx
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Thank you, a few people have said its too early but I feel ready to talk and trying to find a counsellor is already proving a challenge, especially for my dad.
Also feeling guilty about being away from work, but I can’t focus or remember things at the moment, does it get easier?
Oh my love, i am sorry to hear of your sad loss. All you are feeling is normal. I lost my Mum 2 years ago just a day after Mothers day & 2 days after my 50th birthday, & i miss her so much every day still. Just take your time throuģh your grief, there is NO rush. I am still grievig & just want my Mum, & my Dad who i lost just 17 months earlier, but i cant. It IS hard, but you will get there. And anytime you need to rant or just a chat, you can message me xxx Take care xx
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Thank you, i can’t believe mothers day is coming up as well soon. I’m sorry for your loss too and thank you for the offer to talk. Xx
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Hi, so sorry for the loss of your mother. Sudden losses are the worst to cope with. I lost my mom suddenly and unexpectedly over a month ago. She was only 58. She had no illness. She did get covid and it was extremely mild. She didn’t even have fever, was working and had no issues. So we thought it’s all good and the vaccine worked. Her tests came negative and on the 10th day she had a cardiac arrest and left us. She never had any heart issues. Her regular checks were all so normal. I am very close to my mom and this loss has made it impossible for me to breathe. I can’t keep going like this. I am on depression medication, talking to grief therapist. It helps a little but not a lot .
I totally understand how shocked you must be. It was the same for me and my family. We never expected this to happen. Everyone is devastated. My mom was the strongest person in our family both mentally and physically. I hope you get some strength to go through these tough days. Please reach out it you would like to text. We are in this together!
Oh wow, we are waiting on a post mortem in the next few days so hopefully we will find out what happened, we don’t think it was covid but I guess you never know. She had a good heart apparently, she was checked a few months ago but you never know. I am so sorry for your loss, life is so cruel xxx
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I am sorry.
Please know you do not need to be strong, don’t ever worry about letting your grief out. You will find your own way through this, as we all will.
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Thankyou. I am always here & know what a struggle it is to lose one parent … & i actually find it harder since losing my Mum as she left so sudden. I meant what i said … i am here if you want to chat xxx
I’m so sorry to hear your sad news, I have been through the same thing and lost my mum in January, she was so fit and well, there was no warning at all. She had a brain haemorrhage.
Every day is a battle, coping with shock of it all, the loss itself and unfortunately being let down by NHS. Some days I forget she is gone and have to be reminded.
You will find your own unique way to cope and accept your new life without her. It is incredibly difficult but small steps can make big leaps.
I have read some good books which have helped me cope, one called why bad things happen to good people by H Kushner. I recommend it.
I hope you find strength to get through this, I have to dig deep to find it but I’m trying and no doubt you will too.
Thank you xxx
Hi. I feel for you. My mum passed suddenly 4 weeks ago. It’s her funeral this Wednesday. I am not coping at all well. I can’t look at photos. Our messages. I find going to her house distressing but I have to as we have to clear it all out as it was a council house. I can’t offer much advice sorry as this is all still so raw but here if you need to talk.
Nicola
Hello, my Mum passed away very unexpectedly on 24th Feb, we have her funeral on 18th March. She was my best friend in the world, an amazing Mum & Nanny to my 4 year old …… yet I just feel numb. I get waves of being a little upset & then I manage to carry on. My Dad recently had a knee replacement, so I’ve been doing all the running around for the funeral, which I guess has kept me busy and has meant I haven’t had time to really process things. I have so many unanswered questions that I will never get the answers to, like did she know something was wrong & did she choose to ignore it. Did I do enough? Should I have recognised things? I can’t give you any advice, but I do very much share in your pain & uncertainty for the future. Hope you & your family find peace x