In August 2010, dad died of lung cancer and in March 2021 my mum died of breast cancer. My husband died in traumatic circumstances 5 months later, in August 21 and the shock and guilt have been difficult to come to terms with. I was diagnosed with a squamous cell carcinoma this past June, after 3 years trying to make my GP and practice nurse listen. Fortunately it has now been dealt with and I seem to be doing well. It’s not the first time I’ve had cancer, having been successfully treated for breast cancer 27 years ago at the age of 41. Despite life’s ups and downs I have tried hard to accept my losses and am learning to live with them. Then today, after months of feeling unwell, my daughter has been put on a two week pathway to test for ovarian cancer (my aunt and cousin both died from it). I want to help her as much as I can but I’m stunned and been hit with a wave of grief, fear and anxiety that has taken the rug from under my feet. My daughter has two children aged 14 and 15 and I fear for them, my daughter and her husband - the whole family. My grandchildren have lost 3 grandparents and a great grandparent in the last 3 years. I feel so overwhelmed and heart broken. How do people cope?
Cancer is evil, at the moment I don’t know what to say, it’s not easy! I’m 56 lost mum last August and was diagnosed with Myeloma Cancer in June this year. I thought I was doing well. I done everything asked of me by the hospital. Yesterday I had my pre Stem Cell Transplant meeting where I was told there was a 2,3 percent risk of death. That was the first time I had heard that, risk of infection would put me in critical care. Could lose hair, feel sick, have a case of very bad runs to the toilet, loss of appetite, soreness in mouth and stomach. The list goes on, I couldn’t give my consent yesterday. I would be confined to a room for 3 weeks maybe more because of 0 immune system. So I know how hard it is for you deal with cancer, I think you have to go through it to personally understand it. Have you tried the cancer support charitys Maggie’s, MacMillan for support ?
I’m so sorry to hear of your situation Keith. I haven’t contacted anyone yet. I’m a bit rabbit in the headlights so haven’t taken it all in yet. I send my best wishes to you and hope all will be well with your health. My condolences for the loss of your mum. I wish you hope and comfort 
Thank You, me too you two.