It’s nearly 2 years now since my sister, the eldest of us four, died of cancer. My two brothers died, one of suicide in 2016, one with lifelong mental health issues in 2023. Our parents died decades ago. I’ve just turned 60 and feel like I’ve lost all context of who I am and where I come from. I’m at the tale end of a 6 month depressive episode and just feeling unmotivated and tearful every day….
Hello @SweenyRod,
I’m Seaneen, and I just wanted to reach out and say how truly sorry I am that you’re going through so much. It’s understandable you’re feeling so lost when you have lost so much; not just your family but all the shared history within it.
Experiencing so many losses can feel incredibly heavy, and it’s completely understandable if you’re finding it hard to cope right now. Please know that you’re not alone in feeling this way.
Many people in our community have faced more than one bereavement, and while every experience is unique, there can be comfort in hearing from others who understand the exhaustion that can come with grieving more than one person. You might find it helpful to read through some of their posts here.
This community is here for you - whether you want to talk, ask questions, or simply be heard. You are not alone.
Thank you Seaneen for your kind words. It’s easy to think we are each the only one suffering, when of course, nobody escapes grief. It’s good to find a community where these feelings can be shared.
Best wishes
Roderick
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Hello @SweenyRod ,
Oh how I know what you are going through. Lost my biological father in 2013, my mum and step dad in 2020 and lost my brother 6 December 2025….and no living aunts and uncles. I am the last of my line and feel like I am spinning round as have no family anchor now! This is the first I have posted on Sue Ryder but wanted you to know you aren’t alone in the “identity loss” crisis adding to the grief! I am 54 so not much difference in our ages.
Take care of you before anyone else….unless you have pets then they come first then you!
Jackie