Late husband's birthday

Losing a partner
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Today would have been Jeff’s 75th birthday.

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He was doing so well with his treatment that I dared to hope he would still be here today. In November his health failed and he was too ill to have anymore treatment. He died on 4th January. Today I have come to the hotel where we spent his last birthday. What a strange day it has been but tonight I will be brave and raise a glass to him and try to be strong and honour his memory by living the life he wanted for me. Life has lost a lot of its joy.

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Well done @JBT . You are doing exactly what I always do on any anniversary. No doubt when you raise that glass you’ll shed a tear or two, but they will fall across a smile. He’ll be proud of you!!!
I’ve learnt to smile and cry at the same time, and as time goes by the tears become less and the smile gets broader. Have a wonderful evening!!

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Well done JBT. It’s sad celebrating on your own. It will be my 75th next week and I’ve been in floods of tears realising I won’t get a card from my beloved. I’m crying now just writing about it :smiling_face_with_tear:

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Just an idea , what helped me on my birthday was I was just sitting staring at the mantle piece at my birthday cards and I just couldn’t cope with my hubby’s not being amongst them, so I went to the drawer where I keep all the past cards he bought me and put one up and it bought me instant comfort knowing his card was there where it always has been the last 30 yrs of birthdays and I placed a lit candle next to it and some flowers. It worked for me and I did the same at Xmas and our anniversary

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