Leaving the forum

After 3 years I have finally decided to leave this forum so I would like to wish you all a Happy New Year and especially to those on here who have been on here several years like myself.
Life moves on even if sometimes we don’t want it to and also this site for me has changed too much. It is not the place for me that it once was. I shall miss those I got to know on this journey of grief and I also won’t forget those same people. Look after yourselves and whenever I look up and see a star it will always remind me that we are never alone as our loved one’s are shining their love on all of us.
Take care and remember to live the dash between date of birth and date of death as that is our story
Love Lyn


Dear Lyn,

I know what you mean, it is six years for me and as you say this site has changed so much since the so called upgrades which do not seem to work, that I only log in now and again and comment on other peoples stories as and when I feel I can relate to them.

I did at one point leave the forum but still popped in now and again. I now realise that this life I live now is not how I expected to end my days, but as others have found out, we can’t stop things from happening, we lose our friends, relatives, children, husbands and wives and there is nothing we can do to stop it as it is the way things are, we are born to die, some die much sooner than others so I am grateful I had 50 wonderful years with the love of my life. As I get older, I am nearer to meeting my Peter again. I live life to the best of my ability but this year has knocked the stuffing out of me as it has many other people but we struggle on and wait for the sun to come out once again.

I am so sorry to see you go.

I wish you all the very best for the future and and know that one day we will all meet our loved ones again and then we will be at peace.




Hi Lyn
I’d like to thank you before you sign off for your thoughtful and supportive posts. Like you, I’m at the point of leaving, the site has changed but then so have we. I am indeed living the ‘dash’, as my lovely man expects of me and I will have so much to share with him when we reunite.
Kind regards


So sorry that you are leaving…I have enjoyed “knowing” you and hope the future is kind to you.
The site has changed a lot over the last few years but then so has the world we live in…sometimes I even feel almost glad that Barry was spared all the angst and unpleasantness of the last four years…as our individual world has tilted, so has the planet on which we try to live!
As time goes on, our grief changes and becomes a part of who we are now…it is a shame that there isn’t some kind of forum for those of us who have carried our grief for years…those new to the excruciating rawness come here for comfort and are looking for reassurance that they will, in time, feel better…and some healing does come with time…but for many of us there is no cure…just acceptance that this stage of our life is part of being human.
Take care everyone…keep safe and keep faith x


Dear amelie_sgran,

I totally agree with you. As you know, we have both been on this forum for a few years now, it is over six years since my Peter died, we had been together 50 years.

As you say, over these past few years our grief does change and becomes an acceptance of what is, but at the end of the day we are having to live the rest of our lives without the one person that made life worth living.

Newly grieving people do not want to hear that they won’t wake up one morning in the future looking forward to their day because it doesn’t happen, there is always that loss, that ache for their loved one to hold them in his/her arms again.

After six years I still want my Peter back. The only thing I am grateful for is that we had 50 wonderful years together, always side by side and we made so many memories that I can close my eyes, think back and remember everything. So many people, especially in these troublesome times, don’t have that, and because of this pandemic, they don’t get the chance to hold their loved ones in their arms whilst they leave this earth and I can’t imagine anything worse than not being able to do that. I and our family were there when my Peter died, holding him in our arms, telling him we loved him and watching him peacefully fall asleep. Not to have been there would honestly have killed me.

I would not wish this on my worst enemy.

Love to you and please take care.

Sheila. (Lonely)

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