Just joined. Realised I do need a place to talk and not feel a burden to friends.
Lost my husband in September this year. Like so many here he was my life. Just us no children. Been together for 45yrs. Loved one another completely for 45yrs.
Nothing prepares us for this utter hell. It is too great. Just got to hope I can learn to cope better as I am really struggling.
My family are hideous and no support.
Got good friends but know it is hard for them to look out for me. I understand that. People are lucky to have lives and they are living. Where as we exsist only.
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about your husband. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you may wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.
Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
I am here for you. I feel the pain too. It’s only been 3 weeks for me. With my husband 27 years. We both just retired and had so many plans! I can’t bear to even think about the memories. I hope we both find some comfort here.
My darling husband of 38 years passed away suddenly in August this year. Thankfully we have a wonderful son, his wife and 2 beautiful grandchildren . We too have recently retired after working hard, being careful to plan for a comfortable retirement.
‘Utter hell’ is precisely where we are and Christmas looming is an absolute nightmare. Little steps for us all, let friends help, eat what you can manage and take hours/day as they come is my advice. 01.40 and I’ve got up again from bed unable to sleep but I take naps whenever I can. We will get through this nightmare and I pray that we will be able to have some enjoyment in the future.
Thank you. I’m having a difficult night this evening. Watching the news isn’t helping. Mass shootings and now Rob Reiner stabbed to death by his own son.
I think a fair amt. of people have no family or the ones they have are not so great at support. Different reasons, but it’s so hard either way. I find having to be super resourceful and figure out things on my own very tiring.
