Morning everyone,
Having a strange day today. For the first time since Darren became ill I just can’t seem to get myself up and dressed! I have managed a shower and got back in my pajamas, I know it’s probably normal, but it has really surprised me. I feel like a zombie.
The vicar came yesterday to go over the service and today I’m going to visit the venue for the wake. I feel so overwhelmed!
Does anyone else have days like this? 
You will feel totally overwhelmed @Louise19 , it’s very early days and with so much to think about and try to put in place. If you need a day in pyjamas then do that, good for you, it really doesn’t matter. I couldn’t do that as people kept visiting, usually unannounced as they couldn’t get hold of me as I’m not on social media. I also have a dog that I have to get up for otherwise I get nagged! I remember being in a daze but functioned on autopilot for weeks and weeks.
You will get there, everything will work out. The vicar has their job to do, as have all the others who have an input into the organising. You are not alone, and don’t be afraid to admit to them that it’s all getting a bit much for you. I found that others actually like to step in and help when asked.
I often have days when I feel like this and it is all I can do to let the dogs out. Don’t be hard on yourself do what you need to.
Louise 19
I’ve been a member of the widow club for just over a year. I don’t really remember the early days as it’s all a blur. My husband was only ill for 47 days so I was in total disbelief & shock. I had to get up as I’ve a granddaughter who relies on me. I am blessed with the most amazing twin sisters & adult children. My eldest Son & his wife took the 3 grandchildren that live near me to their house in Norfolk as it’s normal for us to be together during summer school holidays. He dealt with all the initial phone calls. My other 3 children supported me here each found a job todo, every time discussing it with their siblings and me. My sister’s were ever present to lend support to who needed it most. I got up showered and dressed every day as I had a purpose. Let people help you when they want to. Now a year on I’m having more pj days than clothed. Yes I get up to organise lil lady smile and get on with what’s needed. However days like today I’ve no motivation so just went back to bed. Your doing amazing remember like life death has no rule book. You can only do what you can. My thoughts & prayers are with you xx
Hi Louise
I have most definitely had days like that although they became fewer as time went on.
It’s now over a year since Damien died and because I’ve been so anxious about various family problems recently, those days keep re-occurring and I feel annoyed at myself for dipping back again. However, I now know there will be bright days sometimes too, and I understand that many people are experiencing the awful morning dips.
There always seems plenty of things that need doing, but it’s not always easy to get up and do them.
Hope you soon have more good days than sad ones.
Sending love X
Yes days like that.