I lost my darling husband of 30 years 18 months ago. He was ill for a couple of years and I was his carer for that time. However, I feel very very lucky that we had so many precious times that we could talk to each other and that he allowed me to record the conversations. I am going to keep this short but he wanted his ashes to be sprinkled with mine, but the family want me to do it now. I am so torn. I am not a selfish person but I hug his ashes and talk to him. I just feel that once he has ‘flown away’ there is no turning back. Please help !!! Thank you
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If that was his wish you/they should do what he wanted , i am keeping my husbands ashes until mine can join him. My family just want whatever my husband and i both want. I talk to him all the time and find it a comfort that he is at home with me.
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I agree with @Littleburty @Crinkles.
Do what you & your husband want.
My mum passed away 5 months ago & she asked us to keep her ashes. I want her with me. She herself said if we scatter her where will she be as she wants to be here with us.
You should do what you want & if thats to keep the ashes by all means do it.Especially as you both agreed beforehand.
Crinkles, would it help both you and his family if you split his ashes? When my mum died my dad wasn’t too worried where they were scattered. My sister lives in Australia and my parents had been there many times. So we split them, with some placed on the Yorkshire Moors where she came from and some went to Australia. Those weren’t scattered there for 10 years until I went to visit with my wife. It was only then that my sister actually got closure to losing our mum. That way you’d still have ashes yourself, to later go with yours and the family get the closure they seem to be seeking.
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Thankyou for your advice however it is something that nobody wants to do, including myself. It is such a difficult decision
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I fully understand. I hope you’re all able to find a way forward that you can all agree on. 
Have you considered splitting the Ashes so saving a part for you and him on that special day