My soulmate passed 2 years ago and I have been through the agonising journey you all find yourselves beginning/ going through,. I would like to offer some reassurance that with the passage of time, resilience, strength and willpower the journey we all begin on does get more bearable, it takes time, patience, self love, reflection and a will to live, love, laugh and be you again. We cannot change what has happened but we can choose how we respond to what life throws at us. Death is not an ending, it is a new beginning. Look at a bulb that is planted deep in to the soil, hidden under a pile of earth, it lies dormant in the dark until the warmth of Spring encourages it’s growth, it reaches towards the sun with renewed growth, showing it’s colour and vigour. This is us and we find our rebirth, steadily, slowly and with hope in our hearts. We were lucky to have received the love we had and to continue that love going forwards we have to acknowledge our vulnerability in a world we now have to navigate without our soulmate but never lose sight of who we are and the person our soulmate fell in love with. We can withdraw and shutdown but carrying the love forwards in all that we do is a testament to the love we were blessed to receive. This is how we honour them. Each day we build on those foundations, we put our best foot forward and hope for a glimmer of light through the darkness we are navigating. Loss changes who we are but it also makes us a better person and the person our loved one’s knew we were capable of being and that’s what they recognised in us and it is a continuation of those bonds. Let the pain, heartbreak and every emotion grief brings out in us mirror the love that lies within us not the pain. Love never equals pain. Keep on going, step by step and if you fall, you get up and rise again. Does it get easier? No there will always be a void where they once existed but we learn to appreciate that void and fill it with the love they left behind
Thank you, such poignant and encouraging words.
I am wondering how I can possibly carry on without my husband, every day is a battle to survive, I love and miss him so much, the grief is unbearable at times.
I know my life now will never be the one that I envisaged, it will be hard lonely journey.
You offer that glimmer of light that I long for xx
Just keep believing in you and have faith that your life is so precious and worth every moment you have to go through whether that be good, bad, indifferent, whatever comes your way you will deal with it. There is light at the end of the dark tunnel and it will shine on you. Your husband, like mine, will guide you and you learn to understand, he never really left. Love never dies. People will enter your life that help you on this journey when you least expect it, but reach out and know you are never alone xx
Thank you, I will take your advice and do the best I can to keep going.