Loosing my partner was the hardest thing ive ever had to overcome. 10 months has past and it doesnt get any easier. It sounds dramatic but its like starting your life over again. I dont think ill ever get over loosing him but im learning to cope a little bit more each day. No one can prepare you for that feeling of despair after loosing your partner. I just hope my heart will heal in time.
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I feel the same as yourself Linda. I’m told by a friend who has been through this ahead of us that it does get easier. She says you learn to cope better and find things that make you smile. She also says DON’T think too far ahead and take one day at a time. Take Care. 
Gill xx
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Thank you - I agree taking one day at a time definately helps. I’ve found talking to my partner gives me comfort. I would do anything to have one more conversation in person with him though. Life can be cruel cant it. I will never understand why the nicest people are taken away. I had 10 amazing years with my partner which i will always treasure. When i feel sad i try to think of a happy time we shared together which definately eases the pain. Nothing prepares you for waves of emotions you feel after the loss of a partner x
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I lost my partner on holiday in march very sudden found him on bathroom floor next morning no goodbye nothing together 22 years absolutely devastated had to fly back same day got him home week later funeral was 3 weeks after getting him home im so lost without him xx
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Hi Kevin im so sorry for your loss. I know what you mean about feeling lost. I went through the same stage a few months after my partner passed. 10 months has passed since I lost my partner ill never accept loosing him but i am definately in a better place than I was. Im hoping as Gill said that one day I will learn to smile again. I hope you feel better in time. I have found holding all the great memories I made with my partner close to my heart has eased the pain a little. Im here if you need to chat take care x
My wife of 34 years is passing away in front of me having had late stage colon cancer , followed by 8 months chemo only to find secondaries in her liver which really took hold two weeks ago so now on end of life . It is utter cruel to see her fade and shrink to a very old lady but I am so grateful to have this past 8 days with her . I am struggling to see how life can go on after she goes but I was advised to enjoy these moments and we can face the rest later which is true but reading all yours posts sits exactly with what I have been feeling and thinking . I can honestly say I thought I may be able to handle this better but it really is out of this world in terms of sadness and loneliness. I am keeping the chin up when Sally is awake and talkative but utterly a broken person when I look out so this forum is most helpful in that it doesn’t get easier from what I am picking up we find ways of managing and living with it. Thank you all ,
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Thank u so much i just wasn’t ready or the shock was so bad on holiday as he was so well then got a chest infection didnt know he was gonna die such a shock and sadness hear for u too
Hear for u my freind x
Thank you really it is an enormous help to be able to share the feelings with people who really understand. Just wish there was a cafe or someplace to hooke up in person with people . Maybe I might try to get that moving in my area. Thanks again , I don’t know what I would have done if I hadn’t found this site. Best to you all
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So sorry for your loss Kevin
Thank u sorry for all of us its so hard xx
Hi @Linda8492 sorry you find yourself here, it’s the most difficult journey. I don’t think you ever get over it, you learn to live with the grief & I don’t think your heart ever heals fully after being so broken, perhaps just glues itself back together. It’s been over 5 years for me & I still have days where I’m so overwhelmed with grief I have to close myself off from the world. I have carved out a different life for myself than the one we planned & have two lovely grandchildren. But that carries a sadness because Derek never met them & it breaks my heart thinking what he’s missing & he’d have been such a wonderful proud grandad. I think our hearts will carry the scars but we learn to carry on & move forward. What other choice is there 
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Hi Jodel
Your words about our hearts carry the scars but we learn to manage
Nedh
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I have thought some stuff and came through it in the past but losing a partner is like losing half of me its the worse pain ive ever had does it ever get better
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