Sorry for spelling mistakes just having a good cry whilst typing Everyone please take care x
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I really feel for you. I know how you feel as I lost my husband just 3 weeks and 3 days ago. Its hard and nobody understands unlessthey have gone through it, like all the people on here. 
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Thankyou x im so so sorry for your loss also Its just so awful Tried to access bereavement counselling but ws told need to be at least 6 months down line then for Sudden death 8-12 months to let brain prosess what has happened ??? I already know whats happened and struggling just now Lost my parents when i ws 28 but had my husband to help me deal with that ( he ws always there for me ) but now hes not i keep reminding myself saying Misery Loves Company
I know ! I tried to get councilling and was told the same , you have to wait 3-6 months. Itâs just so hard when your husband was your soulmate and best friend ! Then heâs suddenly gone. Life is so horrible, and in a second, it can change like that! We have to try to stay strong
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Were all going through the same grief on here. Anytime you want to talk, just message me. Itâs nice to have someone who knows how it feels, this awful grief . 
Itâs ok to feel the way youâre feeling. Youve had it hard with losing so many people in youâre life. Be kind to yourself.
Thankyou for you kindnesses i really need this just now as im feeling so low Trying to be strong but sometimes its so bloody hard x
I know it is hard grief. So many emotions to go through. Like being on a rollercoaster. But never knowing when it will end. Ive trained in grief, being a nurse but nothing prepares you for your own loss
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Maybe you need to speak with your GP about having antidepressants to support you. There are also other helplines like cruise who you can contact between 9- 5 for support. I know it wont change how your feeling as loss is something we have to deal with but it doesnt have to be on your own
Your are so right Its such a painful journey Constant feeling of pain in your chest and emptiness in yor stomach( Like you are shaking) im now at stange of not wanting to see or talk to people as they are having a life with family I know its not there fault im just being selfish for me and what myself and son have lost Hating good weather coming as hubby loved a barbecue But i know we all have to experience 1st of everything ohh so cruel life can be I hope you are doing as best you can Its so good to talk about things Thankyou
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This helped me in the first few weeks and still does.
One step breathe x
I found it hard and still do. One minute i can be fine the next
Minute crying. Keeping busy is the only thing i can do. Do speak to someone. This community has helped me, you are not alone.
Hugs xx
Yes, same for me. Up and down.
Plus the tears can be so unpredictable.
I find I need to keep my mind occupied or sad thoughts creep in.
I think I need to get the balance of thoughts right, if thatâs possible.
We need to grieve but also need a period of calm, if thatâs possible.
I havenât found the answer but hope and pray I will
Rose x
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Exactly the same for me only we have a balcony. I got it ready for him 2 years ago today when he came out of hospital. Sat after chemo recuperating and once he felt better weâd sit and have a drink and chat. Now itâs just me and so sad.
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There so many sad reminders of what we had.
Being in a place all alone when before you were there together is very, very tough.
Big hugs x
I know exactly what you mean, I can work in the garden but sitting in the garden without David is too much for me and I end up weeping. We so very much loved sitting in the garden together,
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It brings back such memories doesnât it.
Also it places and activities can be such reminders of what has happened.
I hope in time these will be far less painful.
Rose xx