@Jeff007
I have many photos and things in the house that remind me of happier times before she became poorly ! I hold the happy memories in my heart and I will love her to the end of time !
Bereavement is about loss not just death and Elissa had counselling from Sue Ryder to help her come to terms with this after she was diagnosed!
The bereavement process started some way back for both of us and I am slowly starting to go out, see friends and spend time with people that I’ve not been able to do especially in the last year or so
Such a lovely idea. I will light 2 candles at 7pm, 0ne for my mum and one for my dad. And will give me a lot of comfort to know that we are all doing this together, and i am not alone
This is my second Christmas without my beautiful mum, and her brother my uncle. Its the first Christmas without a dear best friend too. I’ll lighting 3 candles at 7pm, Christmas Eve and thinking of them and you all too. L.xx
See you all at 7. Candles for my beautiful mam (second year anniversary, third Christmas) and now my little Porscha (first Christmas after 18 years together). Will light up my Christmas trees and shrine. Such a wonderful thing to do together. Dreading Christmas alone, again. But knowing that you are all here with me stops me giving up entirely. See you all then and I’ll be posting pics afterwards
Lots of love xxx
Will be lighting mine for the first time this year, my first Christmas without my beloved husband. 7pm in my window. Unfortunately will have to be a battery one not real flame, but with no less love.
Most nights I light a candle for my lovely husband who died a year ago suddenly and unexpectedly at the age of 53. I won’t be celebrating Christmas as to painful. I will also light a candle for him on Christmas Eve xx
Great idea. Missing my only sister so much right now. She loved Christmas and wouldn’t want me to be sad. She told me ‘ no grieving’ but I can’t help it. I will smile for her tomorrow when I light my candle and will hold everyone who is grieving in my thoughts when I do
Hi kaceym we are all in the same place at this time of the year It never gets any easier but some how we get true it Wan thing that gets me through it is the memories and no body can take that away from me they’re always there. Chin up
I cannot imagine the pain of losing your sister, my own sister and I are so close I couldn’t bare to lose her.
If she has asked you not to grieve that’s an impossible thing to ask of you but you can try to concentrate on your happy times, the good memories and fill the hole with these as much as you can
Yesterday I decided to visit the city centre and buy some gifts for my family and friends just as we used to, I ate lunch at one of our happy places and bought a nice Christmas candle to light tomorrow evening especially for her !
Thank you for the invitation @amelie_sgran to join others in lighting a “memorial” Christmas candle. Together we burn bright and beautiful! Merry Christmas to one and all!
Jedi_Adi yes its grrat thst we will all be as one lighting a candle for those we have loved and lost.My wonderful husband 12 years now our only child our boy last year He was 51 but still our beloved boy.My heart is broken.Then just last Tuesday my precious friend Jackie we met at school over 60 years ago.The lights will shine bright as it did throughout their lives.God bless everybody in this community xxxx
and another one for my mother.
for the loved ones that has passed God Bless us all 
