For many, myself included the bereavement started process started when hears her terminal diagnosis in May 2021 so that’s when the clock started ticking for us as she slowly lost her mobility, her independence and any promise of the future together that we had planned! Elissa was receiving some counselling las year for tbis
The funeral for me is another gateway for myself, family and friends to pay our respects and say our goodbyes but she lives in my heart and my thoughts forever
Just bought a beautiful candle smelling of beautiful roses for Christmas Eve at 7 My late wife loved roses it will bring back so many great memories. It will be a sad moment when i light the candle but deep down we will be so so together. As i have said a sad time but I really am trying to get my life back on track it’s been 4 years this Christmas I know i can’t live in the past forever will make a few changes in the new year. I know my pat would not like me to grieve all the time so I am keeping the faith so you all know safe and god Bless you all
Think of the good times and the positive things as I’m sure she would not want you to carry on as you are ! She cannot rest in eternal peace as you would want her to be if she sees you in such turmoil !
Live your best life and keep her alive in your heart and mind forever …. Try to give yourself a chance
Hi everyone, I am new here. I just wanted to come on and say I will be lighting a candle for my wonderful husband who passed away on 14 th November this year followed a diagnosis of oesophageal cancer 4 months earlier. I miss his presence so very much I cry every day and am constantly yearning for him… Christmas will be so hard this year but I have bought a candle ready to light on Christmas Eve x
Hi Gilmar lots of us on here do it every Christmas Eve at 7 o clock It brings us all together none of us have ever meat but for this one night we are all one Thinking of our loved ones. Some how it brings us all together for one night. It means i am not alone. So as I always say keep your chin up keep the faith and god Bless us all
Hi alice8 we are all here for you everyone here is in the same place you are in. It’s very hard to begin dealing with grief it’s something you have never experienced before. This site lets you rant and rave all you want. Thank you for sharing your grief on here thinking of you we’re all going through the same grief. Does it ever get better it’s been 4 years for me and I still feel the pain of losing my pat. You learn to live with it but you never forget we’re all here for you please keep in touch chin up keep the faith and god Bless you Sending hugs
I am so sorry to hear that, my wife passed away the very same day.
I can understand your pain and feeling about Christmas- my wife loved everything about Christmas. Our daughter came over Friday evening and we put the tree up because we have young grandchildren (grandson aged 7 and granddaughter aged 18 months) and then had a Chinese as that’s what Elissa loved.
I know I’m going to struggle sometimes but have some quiet days planned in too for myself too. I will me thinking about her every minute
Just take things at your own pace and how you feel you can cope. You are not alone….
Hi thank you both for your replies.it does help having a community of people who understand each other I am so sorry for your loss Cat fan.i am sorry that anyone has to be here at all cancer is so cruel My husband was 63 still had a lot of living to do… I miss him with all my being x
6 days to go before we light the candle for our loved ones Just for one moment we are all together as one. It never gets any easier but some how we make it through. Hugs and kisses to all. God Bless us all
Yes it’s a nice idea . Although I have light a candle every night since my darling girl passed on the 20th of December 2021 . And I will keep on doing so . She was the the light of my life so I try to keep a bit of that light alive . Some my say that’s not letting go but I find it a comfort and a nother way of coping after losing her !!
Hei Jeff007
My Eve died 7th July 2022. Like you, I have a candle lit every day for her and I will, too, keep doing it. You’re right, it keeps a little of the light she was alive.
Just to remind everyone 5 days before we all light the candle for our loved ones It will bring us all together just for a moment and the happy memories it will bring good times I’m so so ready for Christmas Eve God Bless you all hugs and kisses
cancer is so cruel My husband was 63 still had a lot of living to do… I miss him with all my being x
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