Hi all,
I don’t know where to start to keep this brief so I am sorry this is long, it’s all still overwhelming. In late 2019 I was on the phone to my on/off partner of 12 years when he suffered a sudden heart attack. I am a carer in an end of life care home so knew the signs and heard that unmistakable death rattle. I immediately called 999, then the neighbours to get round there with the defib and then spoke to his daughter and her partner who were too distraught to act. My friend drove me round there as fast as possible and I arrived just as he was being loaded into the air ambulance.
I was 39 at the time, my partner 49, his daughter 23. I always had a good strong relationship with his daughter as I was a big part of her life growing up and in the days that followed where he was in an induced coma we were a tight unit. My partners brother has never liked me, he called me a gold digger from years back and he is also extremely high up in the Met Police.
After several weeks it was determined that my partner had probably irreversible brain damage due to lack of oxygen and despite waking from the coma and surviving sepsis and pneumonia he was in a vegetative state, the outcome was bleak but also unknown.
Without warning my partners brother sent me a vicious voicemail asking me to clear my things from my partners house, meet him to return the keys, never contact anyone again and get out of the families lives permanently. This was followed up with an equally vicious voicemail from the daughter stating the same. It was beyond hurtful. I did as I was told and I was also barred from visiting the hospital and contacting them.
Using ancestry records I can see that my partner has not died.
I am struggling to move on from this. Despite the fact we were on and off in our relationship due to his poor mental health we had a long history and were very much in love for so many years. Before his heart attack we were planning a future together.
I have received counselling which was helpful but not life changing, there are so many questions I have no answers for and I’m not sure if I should even explore it but I cannot move on and it haunts me day and night everything that happened.
Any advice would be so welcome. Thank you so much and love to all who are suffering.