Hi, I lost my husband of 30 years in May to cancer he had been ill for over a year and I cared for him at home until he died. I’m 48. Although I’m coping incredibly well I can see I’m trying to fill the void of him not being here. I have lots of amazing friends but I’m missing a connection with a like mind. I’ve made a new male friend ( through work and mutual friends) and we’ve been messaging for a few months he’s but I can see I’m trying to fill this horrible hole in my life. I miss the company and mental stimulation particularly at night when I’m alone. Has any one else found themselves in this situation. I have feelings for this new man but he has some issues of his own he is battling. I seem to want to care for him and am finding it hard as he can be emotionally a little distant although very lovely. I’m finding it hard to stop thinking that this could be more than friends. I can see I’m probably so used to looking after people ( I have an autistic daughter) that I seem to be falling into a pattern. Any help would be lovely x
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Hi, sorry for your loss. From reading what you have written here, you seem you be answering your own questions.
You like this guy but feel it’s just too fill a void. Maybe just stay friends and enjoy each others company and see where it goes.
I’m 11 months tomorrow, I’m open to finding another love in time but I’m in no rush. I’m not stable enough in myself to give a new relationship the time and respect it deserves.
Everyone is different and everyone will have a different opinion. What matters is what you want, what you think and feel.
Best of luck.
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