I find I struggle with loneliness evenings weekends, I have recently found my health is causing me a few problems and I find my self talking to my husband with hope he’s around somewhere close by
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I’m the same with evenings and weekend it’s so bad. My husband died 7 weeks ago and it’s just shite and lonely even tho I’ve 2 children aged 10 and 14 that keep me busy and great friends and family I’m still so lonely. I don’t have any answers or even advice but if u ever wanna talk im here xx
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Humphries, I am sorry you feel so alone, My wife had Parkinson’s and I cared for her as you did for your husband. Like I found because you spent so much time careing for him doing all those personal things that your partner cannot manage there is a big hole in your life, apart from him being your partner. At least you can come on here for a chat, people understand what you are going through. I hope your health picks up with the better weather.
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When my partner Ann passed away after over 30 years together I’ve never felt so lonely we did everything together I’m disabled and she looked after me
Some time ago I was diagnosed with autism spectrum so it makes it difficult for me to to make friends and I have no family or anyone else who can help me cope with being lonely I very rarely get out of the house most days it’s the same thing just waiting for the end of the day the only person who keeps me company is my cat I miss all the places we used to go to every day Ann would think of somewhere to go I’m not sure how much longer I can carry on with this life
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Hi Maria I can’t begin to know how you feel or are coping losing your partner and having young children hardest thing ever, I feel lost as I don’t have a purpose I surprise I was wife then his carer I took care of everything for us every day was around my husband needs and care when we went out or I went out now it’s just me sitting here missing him and our life together, but you must have so much more to deal with hope you find life improves for you and your lovely children as time helps
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Hi Rob thank you for your kind reply, like you I cared for my husband 24/7 with very little help he had several conditions added to that a rare type of dementia but he was still there with some personality changes still my hubby, my life was arrange for his care and needs now I feel lost , but over all I don’t feel I have a purpose in my life I’ve always had someone to look after do things for and with, I can relate you missing going out together, Sounds like you have a big hole in your life to, unfortunately my health conditions have suddenly got worse and most likely will continue but I won’t let it define me yet, hope you have a good day weather beautiful one day at a time is all we can do
Humphries, You sound so much like me and how I feel. My darling was diagnosed with Parkinson’s in 1994, I gave up my full time job in 1999 to work part time so I could manage the home and look after Elizabeth. Later I went self employed, Elizabeth and I did everything together, even when I went to visit a client. We never had to resort to having a carer as Elizabeth did not want one and I could manage everything using various tools like a patient return. We got on so well and managed to have a good life, she was always cheerful and up for going out. Now why am I here ? I am lucky, I used to take my wife to a book club then leave and go back and collect her. I made a mistake when they were struggling to choose a book and I recommended one. They decided to read it. I would have got away with it, but the next meeting was at my place. I could not leave as the host provided coffee and biscuits, and I had to stay for that, so I could not refuse to join in. I was a member from that time on. When I lost Elizabeth, I did not go to the next meeting, I had phone calls asking me to continue which I did. The would not let me host for ages. Some of them had lost their partners along the way and understood and knew how to be with me.
Anyway I have rambled on enough. I hope you can find something to give you some social interaction. Come back for a chat.
Dear Boo2
I am so sorry to learn of your loss.
People in this online community are very supportive. Is there anyone who you and your wife were friends with who could help
Kate Tr
Thank you for your message
My wife Ann had twin daughters from her first marriage and they both turned on me when Ann passed away it was all about her property they never gave me a chance to let them see her will leaving them nothing and things got so bad I ended up in the mental health hospital
Because of my health issues friends have disappeared since the funeral and the only company I have is my fur baby Rosie being a part of this community helps me and I’m so glad that people care
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My wife died at the end of January. We were together for 46 years. She’d had ms for 25 years and particularly in the last year i was caring for her 24/7. I find myself talking to her often, especially when I see a photo of the two of us together. Doing that also reminds me of all the wonderful times we spent together.
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