I really feel for you. It’s the terrible loneliness when your partner dies and you didn’t have children or close family. My husband died over a year ago in an accident at 73. I’m 65 and we didn’t have children, not out of choice. All my family live in Belgium. I’m staying with my elderly mum in Belgium and am surrounded by family. But they all have their own families and are getting ready to celebrate Christmas. I’m happy for them and pretend that I’m ok when I’m with them. But I’m not; I feel more lonely here than back in the UK where we lived for 40 years. I so miss my husband and cry a lot when on my own. I’m glad I can confide in the lovely people on this site. We understand one another and can share our grief. I’m thinking of you all and hope that sometime soon this will get easier and we can enjoy life again. Xx
I have no children either , cared for my mum and she passed away 6 months ago . See my brother and sister in law once a week and that’s it , rest of the time alone unless i go to the shops . Not living , its existing . Sending love and strength to everyone who is lonely and grieving and fighting to survive xx
I know what you mean when you say you are existing I feel the same I lost my husband last Christmas morning am dreading Christmas Day I am elderly disabled can walk much and can get out it’s a different way of trying to live. Without my husband. Go to bed and hope I don’t wake up Have a daughter but she works full time Will be lighting a candle as all of you will Hugs to all
Hello Sonia ,
I’m so sorry how you are feeling , its horrendous isn’t it . I’m dreading Christmas too . We have to try and be strong but what is the point . Always here if you need to talk . Take care.
Love Angie xx
Sonia i will be lighting a candle too . Its awful your husband passed on Christmas Day , my sister passed on Christmas Eve way back in 1980 . Sending you love and strength . Take care , Angie xx
Dear Tias Friend: I am in the same boat but I am mourning my parents. Never had a husband. I just returned from a singles Christmas party. Most older than me … lots of widowers, widows, divorced. I admired how brave they were to go into life. Some found someone new. Some married two three times. I am not suggesting anything but as I looked at them all, I thought how brave they were to go into life and try. My cousins are all in Scandinavia. I was a reporter. I don’t even have my career anymore. So you are not alone. I have made some friends, my cousins call from overseas, but I am very lonely and alone. But I have made two nice new friends from the singles group and I just met them and already feel like I have known them for years.
Thank you for your nice reply Angie
I meant to say I can hardly walk so cant get out
Am an amputee and have other health Issues
Ben waiting since last September to go to Hospital
For a steroid injection in my hip to help with pain
Sorry If I sound that I am feeling sorry for myself
The days are so long go to bed afternoons
There are memory candles you can buy
So am going look online for one with Husband on
Take care
Hugs to all
Sonia
Hello Sonia .
Don’t apologise , you are not feeling sorry for yourself . You are just being honest about how you are feeling and how tough your life is . I hope you get your steroid injection soon , Covid has ruined everything . The days are very long , especially this time of year . The memory candle is a beautiful idea .
Take care.
Love Angie xx
Hi. Widowhood is an incredible lonely time. When you are in a room full of people you can still feel lonely. I have a strong faith and know that God is with me always but its the human touch that you miss. I lost my beloved hubby a year last November and the pain is still there. It probably isn’t as it was when he first went but I still get overwhelmed at times especially at night. But we are all on this site to help one another. I go to a group every week. We are all widows. We used to belong to a group called the jolly dollies (horrid name) but came out of that and just meet ourselves. That’s a big help. Thinking of you and sending love xx
HI CS 123
Thanks so much for your post, it does sound a very simar situation.
How are you today?
Im at work the visiting friends down in
nondon
It would be good to keep hearing from you? CS1
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Hi hope your feeling a little better ,although l have 2 sons one is far away in Australia and another is away with his girlfriend, l have a sister & brother don’t live far ,but l don’t see them or their families, I lost my hubby in April I’ve seen them once since the funeral, l just have to see someone holding hands and l cry ,thankfully l still work I’d planned on early retirement in March 22 on my birthday, so me and hubby could get in the car and go were we want ,yes l know exactly how you feel when you say you feel bereft .