Lonely miss my husband so much i dont know how to cope

Losing a partner
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Please help me. I am devastated i lost my husband last September 2022. And finding it really hard to cope

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I’m sorry your finding things so difficult. This is a great space to get some help. We all understand what you are going through and we’re here to listen.

We are all on different journeys and different stages but we all know how you feel and we are all here to listen.

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So sorry its so hard and we all know how lonely it is so glad your here for support your not alone hugs xx

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Thank you. Nice to know you are there

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Hi Kate I know exactly how you feel I am so sorry for your loss. I am also struggling with loneliness I lost my husband to covid 3 years ago and just cannot accept he is gone.

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Thank u . Feel a bit better

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Hi @Kate51 I know how you feel as lost my husband suddenly at Christmas just gone. He was 53 years old and we just celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary. Life is so unfair and cruel. I have been struggling with all these bank holidays and the sunshine as doesn’t match my mood. We were meant to be going to Cyprus tomorrow. Are you going to see a counsellor or have support from family and friends. It is so hard and a new life that we were not prepared for. Take care and big hugs xx

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Hi Kate
So so sorry you had to join this community, but hope you find done comfort with realising that we all understand.
List my husband, soulmate and best best friend 8 months and 15 days ago.
I sorry to say nothing gets easier, it’s horrible, Im just so sad and lonely and miss him so much all the times
It hurts in every bone of my body
Hugs to you all, as I know you all get it :hugs::hugs::hugs:

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Big hugs back to you. I do have friends they say they understand. But never lost a loved one

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So much grt it. Love and hugs back xx

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@Kate51 yes it is so hard when friends haven’t lost their partners. They try to help but will never know how you feel and maybe not for years. I have a few single friends which helps though still don’t understand how I feel. This life is definitely shite. Miss my husband so much :disappointed_relieved:xx

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Hi I also lost my husband in November 2022 so I know this devastating path you are on I’ve been a total mess myself this site is really helpful you can put whatever your feeling like and someone always cares and reply’s I’m so sorry for your loss take good care remember they live on within us forever xx

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My chemotherapy went ok today. Just feel so lonely after losing my husband and so tired

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Hi Kate
So so sorry to read your post about to our chemo . I’m glad it went well.
But that must be so hard to deal with.
Nothing compared to you but Ivr got to have a little operation on two of my fingers in June (remove some cysts non cancerous)
It’s just so horrid doing these things without the support of the only person you want with you.
I’ll need general anaesthetic - the worst part was having to write a name in next of kin- that wasn’t my husbands :disappointed_relieved::disappointed_relieved:
I put my best friend xxx

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I feel for you hun. Good luck with fingers . I still cant get around the feeling i am not a mrs anymore. Miss my lovely so much. My heart feels like its going to break in to. Never felt a pain like it. Love and hugs to you

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I think you can still call yourself Mrs. if you want to. I have never used it as I opted to stick with my own name when we married. I have always used Ms.

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You are a Mrs. I will always call myself Mrs. It was the proudest moment of my life changing from Miss to Mrs.
The thing I can’t my head is the word ‘I’ - hate that word so much.
So still use ‘us’ or ‘we’ including our dogs…

The other word I hate is widow. Some legal things like insurance you have to list that as you marital status … A few weeks ago I had to do that for the first time when car insurance was due.
I almost lied cos I still wanted to tick married :sob::sob:
It’s all these things that make our grief unlike any other loss. No other loss changes your identity does it!! xxx

Hugs to you all :hugs::hugs:

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Hi I’m so sorry for your loss I lost my father in September 2022 and 8wks later my husband too I’m miss them every day people keep telling me it gets better with time but I feel I’ll never be the same again but we are not alone in our journey your husband and mine will be with us in our hearts till we can be with them once more this site let’s you talk freely about you true feelings one you fear to share with your loved ones again I’m so sorry for your loss xx sending big hugs xxx

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