I lost my soulmate, July 2025, there was over 200ppl at his funeral, just under £1k raised in donations from friends, relatives, but where are they now? I have work colleagues who now avoid me, villagers walk on other side road, family from his side not seen, I can count almost on both hands who has been here for me, & to be honest they are ppl I didn’t expect, the days go by, but the nights drag, walking the floor crying, knowing I have to put a face on for work. I reach out but calls not returned, coffee dates cancelled last minute,
25 years in April this year we would have been together as a couple, married 15 years, (we had 8 months from being told terminal) & the house was never without a visitor but now it’s like my life empty. One day at a time, one foot in front of other, easy for ppl to say but does it ever get easier?
Dd61. I am so sorry about your situation…why are your so called friends not seeing you? I know when I had cancer a few years ago some friends who I didn’t expect visited me and some who I expected to didn’t! I hate it when people say “Well I didn’t know what to say” they want to feel lucky that they are not in our position. Well it’s nearly bedtime now and I’m watching any old rubbish so as not to go to bed, I’m so tired so I fall asleep straight away then I wake every hour…I know I do because I hear the hourly church bells. It’s often these people that don’t get in touch that go to pieces when it happens to them. I just wish we had had another five or so years together whilst we are fit and active…just too early to leave me at 69…the dogs look at me so appealing as if to say where’s daddy. Il let you know how the Grieving coffee afternoon goes at the church and if it goes well you might like to suggest the same to your church/community to set up similar meetings…everyone sleep well….another night of tossing and turning…I used to get up at 8.30 without fail but now I don’t want to get up…my dogs get me upl
My heart goes out to both of you, when the spring finally comes in a few weeks it will bring the first anniversary of Sue’s passing, and I will have another lonely summer with only my memories. I have found some comfort in various activities,I meet others but in reality I am still alone. Friends I meet at bereavement meetings help with getting through the weeks, ln fact in time I will will look into becoming a volunteer counsellor as I feel we have had the experience to help others in our situation.