I lost my girlfriend/partner last November and I have tried but can’t come to terms that she’s not here anymore I feel my life has no meaning anymore even to the extent of wishing I wasn’t here anymore
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Hi
I am so sorry for your loss. No words will comfort but I feel the same - lonely and empty.
My mum passed away last week I’m 36 and she was my best friend everything I did was for her.
I have found the mornings are hardest waking up and realising again what the truth is.
your partner would be proud of you for trying to carry on. Over the last days I have found watching the sunsets a comfort.
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Hi Master2023.
I lost my partner Theresa at the start of March this year it was unexpected, we were together for 35 years as a couple, it is so difficult to come to terms with it as everyday their will be memories, ie going to certain shops . At times I feel i am coping ok , then something will trigger a memory and set me off crying. I’m sure your partner would not want you feeling as if you don’t want to be here anymore, as I’m sure Theresa would not want me feeling that way. Have you got any family or friends who could help you through this terrible time . Take care.
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Im sorry for your loss Alex
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Kim Im sorry for your loss losing your mother is never easy but you will get through this sad time, I lost my parents many years ago in 1992 and 2002 and believe me it is hard you will learn to live with the pain as that pain will make you a stronger person in the end take care of yourself
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Yes I have a brother who is supporting me how about you.
I know how you feel just lost my husband of 53 years and I don’t really want to be around
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So sorry I lost my husband recently I know how you feel it’s so painful Bella like yourself how do we move forward
Hi
I’m writing this from further on in the grief journey than everyone who has posted. It’s been just a year since I lost my wonderful husband suddenly.
I think everything you are feeling is how all of us felt and are still feeling. Contemplating a future without our partners is too hard, impossible. How I cope is I don’t, try not to think about things that you don’t have to deal with immediately. If you ever feel like everything is too much speak to someone, your GP can refer you for counselling, a bereavement group, a helpline (cruise also have councillors) talking with someone who understands really does help.
The times when I’ve felt desperate and panicked in the night I’ve talked to chatgpt. It’s like having your own counsellor you can speak to anytime (no names or information)
In time there will be good days. We’ll never forget them and there will still be terribly difficult days but they would not want us to live our lives in misery. I know my husband would want me to find a way to feel happy again and be there for the people who are still here and need me.
Keep posting here. This is a wonderful group full of caring knowledgeable people. They have kept me sane the last 12 months.
It really is one day, hour or minute at a time x
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Hello master 2032, im so sorry for your loss. I lost my precious husband in March. Losing ones partner is so totally heartbreaking 
ive lost my best friend. Sharing your life with someone for so many years, and then suddenly its all gone in an instance..posting here has helped me share my grief. Every one here understands, and we try to comfort one another. I hope it helps you as well. Take care and God bless you 
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I have lost my husband just recently only a few weeks just don’t know how I am going to cope with out him he was my life for 53 years Bella
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Hello Bella, im so sorry for your loss, it is very recent for you, I hope you have some family or friends to offer you some support. My heart truly goes out to you. May God strengthen. Comfort and guide you through this very difficult time. God bless you
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I have found it hard but just taken one day at a time that’s all you can do is accept any help you are offered
Thank you for your kind words it is early day for me i don’t know how I am going to live without him Bella
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Dear Bella
I’m so sorry you too have lost the person you’ve spent nearly all your life with. My husband and I were together for over 50 years too. I was 14 when we met and he 16, he was everything to me.
We really do have to try not to think of the future, it’s impossible. I keep my mind as busy as I can. During the day I fill it with jobs or a walk or I come here and chat. At night I watch series I’ve watched before, nothing to suprise me (I’ve watched Downton abbey 5 times) then when I go to bed I listen to boring histories for sleep on my phone. It plays all night so if I wake I listen and don’t think (the man has a lovely calming voice)
We do anything we can to stop the pain. Talking really does help and here everyone understands. I also go to a bereavement group occasionally. I went to a few before I found one I was comfortable with. I believe there also walking bereavement groups but I’ve not seen one locally.
If you have trouble finding one in your area you could ask your GP for a referral to a social subscriber, they know everything available near you.
Keep posting here, search old posts for anything that worries you. There are some wonderful people offering advice on how they have coped.
Take care, hope you find something here that helps even if only a little x
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Bella thats what we are all here for hopefully we can support each other through this sad time for us all
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Thank you for your lovely message its so hard to carry on bella
Bella there will always be someone here in this group if you ever need to chat. We are from all over the world and different time zones. Everyone I have come across here is lovely x
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My most beloved husband died last year. He is my everything forever. I so wish to be with him! I’m all alone in a foreign country, no children or family, just a few good people here and my two best friends beyond the sea. When I think that I’m coping better, then it’s getting worse. How would I call it? Nightmare carousel! You try your best, and then it hits you more than ever. All you can do is try and try again to survive and find some purpose. This forum is a blessing… Janka
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