It is now 5 months since my husband passed away. He had a lung condition and I was his carer for the last few months before he died. I have 2 adult daughters, one lives nearby and the other 2 hours away. They are both grieving and so i dont like to add to their burden when I’m having a bad day. I have no siblings so i sometimes need someone to talk to. I am no longer in contact with his sister as she knew how ill he was but only came to visit him once over a 6 month period. Brother in law came on his own. This was very upsetting for my late husband. They didn’t ring or txt following the funeral so after 4 months had gone by i told them not to bother. This was really hurtful and still upsets me. I find it easier to talk to strangers than my friends who have been very good but a lot of them are now moving on or are in couples. I am going out and doing things but i still feel very lonely and the days are long so i do try to keep busy which helps most of the time but sometimes the grief hits you when your not expecting it.
I am so sorry for your loss, we are all on here for the same reason. Its a club we never wanted to join.
Please keep talking on here, take everyday as it comes, bad days and good days set a goal for each day or week something you need to do or want to do it does help to keep you motivated.
I’m on month 12 on 22nd July it feels like only yesterday we were talking to each other. Time goes so quickly but feels so slow.
I know what you mean about family. I’ve not heard from Robs during his illness or after only at the funeral. Dont let it bother you they aren’t worth it.
Sending you hugs.
So sorry that you are struggling. It must be extra difficult when you have spent so much time in a caring role. The empty space left in your life will be huge. I am glad you found us though. Everyone here is grieving but so kind and supportive. Nobody judges, just offers love and sympathy. Xx
@Anne18
I’m so sorry for what you’re going through… you’ve just made me realise that I am way more comfortable talking to people who barely know me than many of those I considered to be our friends.
I wonder why that is?