Lonely

Losing a partner
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Don’t know how to cope since losing my darling husband :broken_heart: :cry:

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Hi @Ladybenson1
I’m so sorry you have lost your husband and find yourself here.
Losing our soulmate is so difficult and painful and it’s often hard to see how to carry on without them.
Sadly I don’t have any advice that makes it easier - just take things day by day and the days will then be weeks, months and years.
I’m assured by others that it gets easier in time and with lots of hard work and self compassion you will find a way to manage through the sadness and despair.
Keep posting here as there is lots of support and an amazing group of people who can offer kindness and love - even when going through the worst times themselves.
Sending strength and a huge virtual hug to you xx

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Thank you but you feel there is nothing left to live for as he was everything to me…and it happen so sudden all with in 24hrs and not even the Dr’s expected this outcome :cry::broken_heart::cry::broken_heart::cry::broken_heart:

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I understand and recognise that feeling, as do many on here.
You are not alone - there is always some support and kindness on here for you. Xx

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Hi, I would echo those comments. My husband was my true soulmate. We did simply everything together. I never expected to have such a life changing year as this one. My husband passed away in April and I retired from the NHS after 25 years in August. Life seems empty and very lonely but my husband would not want me to give up despite that being how I feel. Our adult daughter still lives at home with me and I owe it to her to dig deep every day, to get up, get dressed and try to find a new normal. It’s not easy at all but the people on this site completely understand because they have gone through or are going through the same tragic journey and will offer kindness, love and understanding… sending hugs to you, Jo

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Ladybenson1, none of us do. We are all just winging it, going through motions and trying to stay upright.

Some days, I can function well. Others , I walk in circles. Each day I write a list of 5 things to do and when I get them done, I check them off. It shows me I am moving. In which direction? I dunno, but I am moving.

Numb. Sad. Tired. Forgot to eat today. Grocery store and pharmacy run, back home in 24 minutes, I dropped my credit card without realizing, a lady pointed it out to me. I walked off without my receipt in the next store and the cashier flagged me down. Loopy.

We are all treading water.

Much love.

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Thank you so much :cry::broken_heart:

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Thank you so much that means a lot to me :cry::broken_heart:

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I’m feeling such heartache this morning. Andy should be here to enjoy everything…the autumn colours, his grandchildren coming later today, the butternut squash soup I’m making. He worked hard all his life and now can’t enjoy the fruits of his labours. Its just not fair. He wasn’t ill, he was fit and active with so much more to enjoy and give. To be torn away so suddenly just isn’t right and doesn’t make sense…it is
so difficult and painful and I’m so sorry that he’s missing so much. Love to all going through their own tragic loss. It helps to know we’re not alone x

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I’m so sorry to hear about your darling Husband,i know exactly where you are coming from.I’m like you making soup but its Lentil as that was my darling Husband’s favourite.
My darling Husband was taken away unexpectedly in March and all happened with in 24hrs,just so unfair.
I’m dreading Christmas. I would rather not do it, but the rest of the family would like me to join them for dinner.
It’s so hard to explain how you feel inside,you have all those people round you but you still feel very lonely :broken_heart::cry:
But if you want to rant or just to say anything that will help we will all listen nobody is judged on here
Tc xx :kissing_heart: :heart:

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My soup had lentils in too. A good way to thicken it. Everyone enjoyed it. They were a bit late but did have a fair way to travel to get here.
Thinking about how unfair we feel that our husbands were taken too soon made me think. 'What would he say about it? I’m pretty sure it would be ‘life isn’t fair.’ He had several predictable sayings like that. Others were ‘I’m not asking you to like it, I’m asking you to eat it’ to our children if they were being fussy about their food and his response to me if I said ‘Am I in your way?’ was always ‘No more than usual’ Also he would often say ‘We don’t have rights, we have duties’ Another thing he’d say which I never quite understood was ‘What shall I be when I grow up?’ Perhaps men never do quite grow up. I so miss him xx

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