my husband died 2 weeks ago and i feel so lonely
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Hello @joy01 ,
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about your husband. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you may wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.
- Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
- Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
- Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
- Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Abi
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Hi @joy01, I am so sorry for your loss, it is easy for people to say that but on here we mean it because we know what you are going through, you have made the first step by posting here. Being 2 weeks you are at a very very early stage, there is a huge amount of support and advice available on this forum, both from the Sue Ryder organisation and the people who are posting on here, do have a good look round and do ask for help when you feel the need, normally I write an essay! but that may be too much information even advice! in one go.
We are all here for you, we are all at different stages and we all remember what it is like at this very early stage, looking back (nearly 8 months for me) grieving is what you want to do, nobody can tell you how, there is no right or wrong way but first you must try and look after yourself.
Please do post, ask for help, advice whatever or just rant and let off steam, someone will be ready to help, you are not alone here.
Take care.
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Hi @joy01,
I am so sorry about your husband. As swift said, it is easy to say but we do really mean it on here. We have all experienced the profound sadness and pain of losing a loved one.
My wife died suddenly nearly six weeks ago. She was 57 years old. We did everything together and were rarely apart. I have no family for support so I am alone in this nightmare and I also feel really lonely.
At six weeks, I am also still at a very early stage and finding it really hard to accept and cope with.
Thankfully, there is a wonderful community on here who are so supportive to one and other. I would not be surviving these early days without their kindness, compassion and understanding.
You have definitely come to the right place for support. Please keep coming back and posting. You are not alone in your grief. Everyone is here to help and talk about what we are all going through.
Look after yourself. xx
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You have come to the right place. Lonliness is awful. Grief is awful, put the two together and it is unbearable. Sending you a big hug x
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joy, I am so very sorry. We have all been in your shoes and at 2 weeks in you can expect to be in a fog. It may last a while. I am still there at nearly 2months.
Grieve all you want. Cry your eyes out. It is okay to feel sorry for yourself too, you lost life as you knew it.
We all have big holes in our hearts and lives. We get it. There are many here that can give advice and even let you know that you haven’t gone completely over the edge.
My advice is always this: take life hour by hour, pay the bills, feed the pets, make a list of 5 things you must do each day and do them, check them off so you will have a physical bit of evidence that you are getting things done and not forgetting the utility bill.
Eat even if you don’t want to eat, you must eat. Stock up on easy foods such as boiled eggs, chicken salad, green salad, chopped fruit, almonds, raisins, prepared meatballs. Nibble throughout the day.
If you can’t sleep (and who can?) talk to your physician for something to help you. You need rest. Sleep deprivation will make things much worse.
Warm, whole milk helps.
Much love.
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Thankyou so much
Thankyou for your kind words
Thankyou it helps to know I’m not alone, he was so very ill for about 4 years, and could do nothing for himself so there is a lot of empty hours.
thankyou so much
Thankyou I lost my dad 6 months ago and mum is not very well so this year has been the worst of my life.
I know exactly how you feel my husband died yesterday and I feel like what’s the point so private message me anytime and we could maybe travel this sad journey together x
bless you yes of course message me anytime, its all very painful have you good family and friends to be with you? xx
Yes I have 2 great daughter who I am with at the moment but I’ll be going home Friday then they’re 100 miles away