I lost my sister recently, her death was sudden and unexpected, she was 48.
I’m finding it really difficult to accept her death, she was an alcoholic but was sober the last 11 months and making great process with her recovery. The past 11 months have been a whirlwind trying to find the best accommodation for my sister as she wasn’t as mobile as she was due to the alcohol damage. I feel as though she has been snatched from us and angry she didn’t get to live the life she wanted.
I now worry about my parents and how they will cope as they live opposite my sister’s flat so this will be a daily reminder for them.
Just wondering if anyone else has had any similar bereavements?
Hi LouiseC1. So sorry for the loss of your sister. I lost my sister, Rachel, 22 years ago to a heroin overdose, she was 36. She had been through residential rehab and had been ‘clean’ for a year so her death was a complete shock to us all. My parents both handled it very differently, my mum was grief-stricken and shared that openly although not the cause of Rachel’s death, she could never come to terms with that, but my dad hid it all away and almost pretended she hadn’t existed! I initially turned to alcohol which was obviously not helpful but my sons were very young then so I had them to focus on which helped me in the end. The grief of losing my sister was horrendous and took a long time to come to terms with. I’m afraid I can’t offer you any real advice, there is nothing that will make this awful time any better for you and your family. Just remember you are all grieving so be gentle with yourself and each other, you all had different relationships with your sister so will all feel the loss in so many different ways xx 
I am now on yet another grief journey as I lost my wonderful husband, Andy, just over 8 weeks ago. Life can be so cruel 
I’m so sorry to hear this, life is certainly cruel 
We are all dealing with it in different ways, there are lots of other issues at the moment with her son who didn’t always treat my sister right and essentially “left” the family for a few years.
I sincerely hope you are able to get some help with your grief, feel free to message me anytime to chat xx
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