I lost my dad in October last year to a brain tumour. Ever since I’ve been trying my best to get on with day to day things like going to work and seeing friends. I’ve not spoke to people about how I’m feeling and keeping things to myself. Until my mum mentioned about grief counselling. I know there will be loads of people in the same situation as me. My dad was my best friend and somebody I never thought I would loose to such a horrible illness. I cry every day when I think about him. I’m struggling but kept it to myself until now.
So sorry for your loss. It’s exactly 1 year ago my wife of 48 years went into hospital with strange mental symptoms. They found a mass on her brain. A CNS Lymphoma. On 22 January…2 months to the day later…I held her hand while she slipped away. I still can’t believe it…but I have to. Use this forum…it’s helped me…
There found a mass on my dad’s Brian in August of last year and 2 months later he sadly passed away. I wasn’t with my dad when he passed and I will regret that for the rest of my life. Everything happened so fast from him being diagnosed to knowing how long he had left to live and then passing away. I’ve kept things to myself. But I should have got help sooner. Sorry for your loss too. X
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I lost my dad February and internally I am a mess, I’m so sorry for your loss.
I am also the same and dealing with all my emotions myself anger, numbness, sad and just lost, as time goes on it’s getting harder for me.
I have finally decided to join here and find someone or someone’s to talk it through with as despite having a wonderful husband and 5 beautiful children, I can’t share my feelings because as soon as I try I break and I won’t allow my children to see me broken.
Sorry for your loss, i lost my dad 2 years ago this December, i still feel lost without him, still think just ring dad for a chat, i will take the day off work on anniversary of him getting his wings as i did last year, don’t know what i will do on that day, a couple of weeks ago i could feel the angry coming back, i know he wouldn’t want me to feel like that but i just can’t help it, i miss him so much, still got some of his personal stuff to sort though, my grief counselor told me to do it in my own time and when I am ready, sending you all hugs and love
Hi hun i know how u feel. I lost my lovely dad in july it seems to get harder as the time goes on. I have amazing days thinking of his stubborness and general manorisms then i fall to pieces.I guess we are never prepared for them not to be there but i do feel him around me sometimes do u?
Yes feel my dad all of the time, my dad was a character, he was honest and if you didn’t like him then it was your problem not his, he didn’t live close by but i knew he was always there if i needed to chat,
He sounds my kind of fella , might help to tell me about him x
Too be honest I could talk about my dad all day every day, he was very practical, show him how to do something once and you won’t need to do it again, my dad looked like Stan from off the buses, he liked a laugh and was very caring xx
Hi thanks for your reply and I’m so sorry for your loss. I feel him with me as I wear his ring around my neck, I always said that his ring would go to my first born son and I wanted to give it to my son 2 months ago, I attempted it for a week and felt like I lost him all over again, couldn’t feel him with me at all, felt lost so my son gave it back to me to wear as he could see I was struggling and said give it back to him when he’s older and when I’m ready. Bless him x
I have a necklace my dad bought me for my 21st i wear it every day, have other necklaces but never feel happy, it will go to my daughter,
Hi sorry to jump on -My Dad died in July , he was a real character too and my biggest supporter and friend. Miss him so much it’s the worst feeling … I could talk about him all day too … it’s heartbreaking it really is …
Love to you all x
So sorry for your loss hun. X one thing I’ve found out here is that you are not alone which is a great comfort x
It is . It’s been a life line . I had an assessment for counselling with Sue Ryder today and will start counselling soon . The lady was lovely and said nothing they can say will help but I may not feel as overwhelmed after it so fingers crossed xx
Hi Laura8 i had counselling and it really helps talking to people who don’t know you,
Yes . Thank you xx
Bless him my dad was like that when young but as he got older hed bodge up anything ha, what did ur dad do before he retired, do u have other family? Xx
Tell us all about him hun, my dad was an avid fisherman he lived for it x
My dad came from Scotland, joined RAF, he loved driving, in the RAF he drove a fire engine, after leaving RAF he became a lorry driver then a coach driver, he did spend a lot of time away from home when I was growing up, he remarried after divorce from my mum, so he lived a 4 hr journey away, but ever year he would make the journey to visit, one year he just turned up, he would always come just before Christmas,