Can’t believe I’m writing this but my 21 year old daughter was killed in a car crash just under 4 weeks ago and the pain is unbearable. So hard to function and looking ahead as all her future has been taken away from her. Just reaching out as need to speak to others who understand as although we have had lots is support from friends, it’s just not the same grief I felt when loosing my parents. It’s a shattering grief they takes hold and you are at a loss how to manage it
3 Likes
Hello @Bella01,
I can see that you’re new to the community. I hope you find it to be a support to you, but I am so sorry for the loss of your daughter that brings you here.
Sadly, you are not alone. Many of our members have lost a child and will understand some of what you’re going through. I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, I wanted to share some resources that might help you right now.
-
Child Bereavement UK support families with the loss of a child. They also support bereaved children. You can call their helpline on 0800 02 888 40.
-
The Compassionate Friends support families who have lost a child of any age. They have a grief companion scheme where you can get 1-1 support from another bereaved parent. You can call them on 0345 123 2304.
Sue Ryder also has some resources which can help you cope with grief. -
Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
-
Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
-
Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Seaneen
I’m so sorry for the loss of your daughter. Mg 41 year old daughter and my best friend died of a spontaneous intracranial haemorrhage on 26/11/24. She had not been ill. I f spoke to her in the morning, and found her dead 7 hours later, she had been dead 6 hours. I am broken.
I lost my dad and my mum and that was hard and then I lost my brother and the pain was bad. All that pain together was nothing compared to the pain of losing a child.
I seem to have two lots of grief. One giw what I’ve lost - my relationship with Lauren my daughter and grief for what she should be looking forward to that has been taken away from her. She was just getting her life together after a relationship breakup.
I am existing not living at the moment. But find talking on here helps
I find it’s the future that will never be with her that’s the hardest. She had met a lovely boy and was head over heels in love. I know she wanted children and she was my best friend. I am lost without her and just don’t know how to go on. It’s like a living nightmare when I am awake. Only peace is when I sleep. I am so sorry for your loss as at whatever age they are, they should be burying us and not the other way round.
I’m so sorry you find yourself here, I lost my daughter 20 months ago, she was also 21.
No one can understand your grief like another grieving parent. Friends and family may think they have an understanding of what you’re going through but the mind and body doesn’t have the capacity to comprehend the level of pain we experience when we lose a child. It is a pain that shouldn’t exist.
The first weeks and months are unbearable and I wish there was a way I could help ease that pain but the only thing you want and need is to have her back.
Every emotion, every thought, the anger, the rage, the despair and the fear are all valid. Someone here will have experienced the same at some point and sometimes it’s good to know you’re not alone in what you think or feel. Use this site, it’s a lifeline.
1 Like
Thank you for your kind words x
1 Like